Happy Holidays, everyone.
I am not planning on giving you a run down of my year because it would take me way too long to hit all of the highlights from 2012. It was definitely a year that I will never forget but also a year I am ready to package and put away; however, before I put the on lid and put the year to rest, I thought I'd share some of the best lessons that surfaced during the past twelve months.
1. Do something that scares you---You'll never know what you're capable of unless you take that dreaded first step out into the unknown. It is utterly terrifying to step towards something you're not completely sure will end in success, but what you learn from the journey far outweighs the results.
2. It's healthy to occasionally reassess--- I hit the 25-year-life-itch and debated about starting a new path for my life. I was so unsure about everything that I used to think was a given, but what came from it was a new sense of self. I became more surefooted about my career and location. This isn't to say that I won't have another "life-itch," but right now I feel pretty sure about my path. We must all do this at different times in our lives. It's important to see what's out there and make sure we are doing what's best for ourselves.
3. Only give time to those who deserve it---I used to give so much of myself to everyone, even if someone didn't treat me the best. This year I worked on ending this issue, and what I took away from it was a much happier me. I focused mainly on those who cared about me and wanted the best for me. I urge all of you to do the same if you don't already. We are all worth the very best.
4. Life is about the little moments---Take time to soak up the little things in life; these add up to make big memories if you let them. I will forever remember walking around IU at midnight while campus was deserted, and the snow was falling, blanketing the most beautiful town I have laid eyes on. It was nothing crazy, but the image is forever ingrained in my mind because it was special to me. Life isn't always about the big moments or materialistic things. Joy, pure joy, can be found in the smallest of moments or gifts.
5. Be kind---It's so easy to be judgmental, impatient, selfish, or rude, but don't! Being kind to others says more about your character than anything else ever will. Kindness is a quality this world needs a lot more of, so let's get to it.
I am hoping for big things in 2013. I am not sure what lies ahead in my future, but I vow to be open and receptive to it all. I will laugh more, be nicer, work harder, search for joy in all I do, and keep growing. I wish all the same for every one of you. If I could wish for one thing for everyone though, I wish you all heaps and heaps of happiness.
Go do good things in 2013,
BT
Sunday, December 30, 2012
Saturday, December 15, 2012
Unspeakable Sadness
Hi, all.
I have no lesson today. I have only a pit in my stomach from what transpired in CT yesterday. My thoughts and prayers go out to all those affected by this horrific tragedy.
It's a teacher's biggest fear; I know it is mine. It isn't something I have at the forefront of my mind each day at school, but it is always lingering in the back. What if? What would I do? How would I get as many kids as possible in my room and hidden away safely? And, inevitably, I always ask, "Why?"
I spoke to my 5th hour about the accident when they came into class. I find most things to be valuable teaching lessons. After a few kids gave their thoughts and opinions, one boy raised his hand. "Miss Parker, would you try to save us? Would you take a bullet for us?" I looked around the room. Yes, my 5th hour is my most troublesome class of the day. Yes, some refuse to turn in an ounce of work. Yes, I breathe a sigh of relief when they walk out, but I love each and every one of them. I scanned the room and said to him, "Absolutely. I absolutely would."
There is not even the tiniest piece of me that can rationalize what happened or what would make someone commit such a heinous act. Each time this happens, it shakes the moral fabric of our country. We have to do something; I just don't know what that something is. I read the list of names and ages of the victims and just cried. There is no reason for it. Crime and senseless killings are bad enough, but innocent and defenseless children? No.
The teachers in CT who selflessly put their life in danger to save those precious little kids should forever be immortalized. What heroes.
Go do GOOD things,
A sad BT
I have no lesson today. I have only a pit in my stomach from what transpired in CT yesterday. My thoughts and prayers go out to all those affected by this horrific tragedy.
It's a teacher's biggest fear; I know it is mine. It isn't something I have at the forefront of my mind each day at school, but it is always lingering in the back. What if? What would I do? How would I get as many kids as possible in my room and hidden away safely? And, inevitably, I always ask, "Why?"
I spoke to my 5th hour about the accident when they came into class. I find most things to be valuable teaching lessons. After a few kids gave their thoughts and opinions, one boy raised his hand. "Miss Parker, would you try to save us? Would you take a bullet for us?" I looked around the room. Yes, my 5th hour is my most troublesome class of the day. Yes, some refuse to turn in an ounce of work. Yes, I breathe a sigh of relief when they walk out, but I love each and every one of them. I scanned the room and said to him, "Absolutely. I absolutely would."
There is not even the tiniest piece of me that can rationalize what happened or what would make someone commit such a heinous act. Each time this happens, it shakes the moral fabric of our country. We have to do something; I just don't know what that something is. I read the list of names and ages of the victims and just cried. There is no reason for it. Crime and senseless killings are bad enough, but innocent and defenseless children? No.
The teachers in CT who selflessly put their life in danger to save those precious little kids should forever be immortalized. What heroes.
Go do GOOD things,
A sad BT
Wednesday, December 5, 2012
You May Say I'm a Dreamer...
Hi, all.
I hope you're having a wonderful Wednesday evening. In a fabulous turn of events, my niece has learned to say my name, and I was blessed with an audio recording of it, so needless to say, I am pretty ecstatic.
Lesson of the Day: Be a dreamer.
If ever I couldn't think of or wish for something that was deemed implausible, I would be lost. While I don't run around protesting for world peace, which would be lovely, I find myself wishing for things that are pretty far fetched. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't wish all my students will turn all their work in and get an "A" or that Ellen/Oprah will come to their senses and ask me to be a part of their shows. I feel like wanting, wishing, or dreaming for something bigger ensures that we never settle. I know that Oprah and Ellen will one day find me, so I refuse to let my sense of humor tapper off into nothing.
Truly though, always be a dreamer. Wish and hope for things bigger and better than what you have now. It doesn't have to be materialistic things. Dream for things that will add to your life in other ways. I have this dream that one day my students will all think about what they say before they speak in order to ensure they don't hurt someone else in the class. I know it is asking a lot, but I keep the hope. I implore you to do the same.
What if? What if it was possible? That's what I always tell myself. I watch the impossible happen every day on TV. We conquered the moon, rallied a million people to march for equality, and watched that lead to an African American become president. Impossible is nothing. We can do absolutely anything if we just focus enough time and energy to it. This I am sure of.
I am off to dream now. I hope you do, too.
Go do good things,
BT
I hope you're having a wonderful Wednesday evening. In a fabulous turn of events, my niece has learned to say my name, and I was blessed with an audio recording of it, so needless to say, I am pretty ecstatic.
Lesson of the Day: Be a dreamer.
If ever I couldn't think of or wish for something that was deemed implausible, I would be lost. While I don't run around protesting for world peace, which would be lovely, I find myself wishing for things that are pretty far fetched. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't wish all my students will turn all their work in and get an "A" or that Ellen/Oprah will come to their senses and ask me to be a part of their shows. I feel like wanting, wishing, or dreaming for something bigger ensures that we never settle. I know that Oprah and Ellen will one day find me, so I refuse to let my sense of humor tapper off into nothing.
Truly though, always be a dreamer. Wish and hope for things bigger and better than what you have now. It doesn't have to be materialistic things. Dream for things that will add to your life in other ways. I have this dream that one day my students will all think about what they say before they speak in order to ensure they don't hurt someone else in the class. I know it is asking a lot, but I keep the hope. I implore you to do the same.
What if? What if it was possible? That's what I always tell myself. I watch the impossible happen every day on TV. We conquered the moon, rallied a million people to march for equality, and watched that lead to an African American become president. Impossible is nothing. We can do absolutely anything if we just focus enough time and energy to it. This I am sure of.
I am off to dream now. I hope you do, too.
Go do good things,
BT
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
Two Roads Diverged in a Yellow Wood, so I Called My Friend for Help
Hi, all!
I am back writing today after a much needed cathartic visit with my very best friend. As soon as I hopped in my car to go home, I knew I had a post that needed to be tapped out.
Baby Teacher Advice: Find someone you trust. Have someone in your life who you can be completely honest with and talk to about anything.
There is something to be said for a true friend--someone you can wholeheartedly trust. They give a place of refuge where you can be honest with fears, triumphs, questions, or thoughts. Having a person like this in life is invaluable.
I am a Baby Teacher. While I may have a pretty good grasp on many aspects of life for being such a young pup, I find myself confused and unsure daily due to my inexperience at living. Lately, more than ever, I feel as though I am at Mr. Frost's two diverging roads. I keep staring down each road as far as I can see, but I still am questioning which path I should/want to choose. This dilemma has weighed heavily on me until tonight. I met with my friend/hero/shrink/(insert any other positive word) today after work and just talked. She asked questions that I had not thought about. She never judged. She never laughed. She just listened to me. Everything I truly felt or thought was said. I never hold back with her because she has earned my trust, which is not an easy task. While she didn't tell me what choice to make, I left there with the clearest perspective I've had in a while.
I know trust is hard to give. It requires a sense of vulnerability that most do not like to feel. However, you have to trust yourself enough to know who to trust. We all need outlets. Find someone, anyone, who you can go to. I don't believe life was meant to live alone. It was meant to be shared with by those who we care enough about to share it with. Lean on others. Find your true friends to help you in times of need. Be strong enough to trust someone with the thoughts you hold closest to your heart.
Sometimes you get lucky like I did. Sometimes, just sometimes, you find the greatest person in the world who changes everything just by being there. That, folks, is a true friend.
Go do good things,
BT
"Few delights can equal the mere presence of one whom we trust utterly." ~George MacDonald
I am back writing today after a much needed cathartic visit with my very best friend. As soon as I hopped in my car to go home, I knew I had a post that needed to be tapped out.
Baby Teacher Advice: Find someone you trust. Have someone in your life who you can be completely honest with and talk to about anything.
There is something to be said for a true friend--someone you can wholeheartedly trust. They give a place of refuge where you can be honest with fears, triumphs, questions, or thoughts. Having a person like this in life is invaluable.
I am a Baby Teacher. While I may have a pretty good grasp on many aspects of life for being such a young pup, I find myself confused and unsure daily due to my inexperience at living. Lately, more than ever, I feel as though I am at Mr. Frost's two diverging roads. I keep staring down each road as far as I can see, but I still am questioning which path I should/want to choose. This dilemma has weighed heavily on me until tonight. I met with my friend/hero/shrink/(insert any other positive word) today after work and just talked. She asked questions that I had not thought about. She never judged. She never laughed. She just listened to me. Everything I truly felt or thought was said. I never hold back with her because she has earned my trust, which is not an easy task. While she didn't tell me what choice to make, I left there with the clearest perspective I've had in a while.
I know trust is hard to give. It requires a sense of vulnerability that most do not like to feel. However, you have to trust yourself enough to know who to trust. We all need outlets. Find someone, anyone, who you can go to. I don't believe life was meant to live alone. It was meant to be shared with by those who we care enough about to share it with. Lean on others. Find your true friends to help you in times of need. Be strong enough to trust someone with the thoughts you hold closest to your heart.
Sometimes you get lucky like I did. Sometimes, just sometimes, you find the greatest person in the world who changes everything just by being there. That, folks, is a true friend.
Go do good things,
BT
"Few delights can equal the mere presence of one whom we trust utterly." ~George MacDonald
Sunday, November 11, 2012
Baby Teacher Say Thanks...
Hello,
I would not be Baby Teacher had I not been influenced by many teachers who possess the gift of teaching and inspiring students. I just received news that one of the greatest teachers I have ever met would be retiring after this school year. While I was happy for her, as she deserves to enjoy some time to herself after 40+ years devoting all of her time to students, I could not help feel a heap of sadness. She was the kind of teacher whom I aspired to be like. She is a master at each tiny aspect of teaching. I feel a sense of pity that other students will no longer have the joy of having such an incredible educator.
There have been many teachers in my lifetime who have left an imprint on me. I see it each day that I teach. I find myself doing things that my influential educators did while I was in their class. I would like to give a shout out to...
Mrs. Hunt (Hands down greatest teacher I was blessed to have. She is my hero and greatest person I know. She inspired me to teach.)
Mr. Fruth (He was taught me more about English than anyone I ever had.)
Madame Koselke (She is a rock star in the teaching field. Absolutely irreplaceable.)
Kristin Poage (My college education professor who inspired me every day. She epitomizes everything a teacher should be.)
Teresa White (My college journalism education professor who taught me more than I think I even realize. I miss her dearly. I was prepared to take over the yearbook because of her.)
Madame Roule (The sweetest lady alive!)
Mrs. Meyer (My loving, encouraging 2nd grade teacher. She has a big spot in my heart.)
Mrs. Brugos (I have loved her since I was six. I will probably continue doing so until I am 95.)
Mrs. Sass (The first person who really made me love English.)
Mrs. Farrell (My AMAZING 8th grade teacher who shared a love of Donny and Marie with me!)
Mr. Lindeman (I was never a big science fan, but he made genetics fun and interesting.)
Mr. Zeisig (Every day was an adventure in 7th grade social studies.)
Mrs. DeWolf (I learned more her 8th grade social studies class than all others combined.)
Mrs. Chezem (She was my elementary school gym teacher, and I used to follow her around like a puppy because I thought she was so wonderful.)
Mr. and Mrs. Sherrick (They both had me engaged in their classes from the first bell to the last.)
Teachers are special individuals who do more than you'll ever know. Take the time to say thanks to one or all of them. I wouldn't be the person I am today without them!
Go do good things,
BT
I would not be Baby Teacher had I not been influenced by many teachers who possess the gift of teaching and inspiring students. I just received news that one of the greatest teachers I have ever met would be retiring after this school year. While I was happy for her, as she deserves to enjoy some time to herself after 40+ years devoting all of her time to students, I could not help feel a heap of sadness. She was the kind of teacher whom I aspired to be like. She is a master at each tiny aspect of teaching. I feel a sense of pity that other students will no longer have the joy of having such an incredible educator.
There have been many teachers in my lifetime who have left an imprint on me. I see it each day that I teach. I find myself doing things that my influential educators did while I was in their class. I would like to give a shout out to...
Mrs. Hunt (Hands down greatest teacher I was blessed to have. She is my hero and greatest person I know. She inspired me to teach.)
Mr. Fruth (He was taught me more about English than anyone I ever had.)
Madame Koselke (She is a rock star in the teaching field. Absolutely irreplaceable.)
Kristin Poage (My college education professor who inspired me every day. She epitomizes everything a teacher should be.)
Teresa White (My college journalism education professor who taught me more than I think I even realize. I miss her dearly. I was prepared to take over the yearbook because of her.)
Madame Roule (The sweetest lady alive!)
Mrs. Meyer (My loving, encouraging 2nd grade teacher. She has a big spot in my heart.)
Mrs. Brugos (I have loved her since I was six. I will probably continue doing so until I am 95.)
Mrs. Sass (The first person who really made me love English.)
Mrs. Farrell (My AMAZING 8th grade teacher who shared a love of Donny and Marie with me!)
Mr. Lindeman (I was never a big science fan, but he made genetics fun and interesting.)
Mr. Zeisig (Every day was an adventure in 7th grade social studies.)
Mrs. DeWolf (I learned more her 8th grade social studies class than all others combined.)
Mrs. Chezem (She was my elementary school gym teacher, and I used to follow her around like a puppy because I thought she was so wonderful.)
Mr. and Mrs. Sherrick (They both had me engaged in their classes from the first bell to the last.)
Teachers are special individuals who do more than you'll ever know. Take the time to say thanks to one or all of them. I wouldn't be the person I am today without them!
Go do good things,
BT
Wednesday, October 31, 2012
Hello, Grandma?
Hi, Folks.
Quick question. When is the last time you've called up your grandma or grandpa just to say hi? If your answer is one that causes shame or guilt, please pick up the phone and finish this blog later.
Baby Teacher lesson of the day: Never EVER take your grandparents for granted.
I don't know if anyone has ever loved me more than my grandparents. I lost my Grandpa Parker, so I can't speak of him in the present tense, but I would have little issue in saying that I was the miniature love of his life. I am sure the same could be said for any of you reading this.
Grandparents are the cute, cuddly people who want to know every minute detail of your life wrapped in between hugs and card games. They want to hear of every personal triumph from a promotion to a successful oil change so that they can brag to every single person who they come in contact with that they do in fact have the most wonderful grandchild in the world. It's the truth. Grandparents have a love for their grandchildren that's impossible to explain. Sometimes I catch my grandma just staring at me with the cutest smile on her face. She asks me a 101 questions (even though I see her almost daily) because cares more than anything that I am happy and successful.
Don't take these people for granted. Don't let weeks pass without communicating with them. Tell them you love them. Share your stories. Visit them just because. Bring dinner and watch "Who Wants to Be a Millionaire" or "Bonanza" with them. They want nothing more from you than time because they know that their time is becoming even more precious.
Looking back on my life, I missed a lot of parties, nights out with friends, or time that I could have been using to find Mr. Right, but I spent countless hours putting together puzzles, playing cards, baking bread, watching TV, and laughing with the people who own each tiny ounce of my heart. I'll never regret the time with them.
Pick up the iPhone. Call now. :)
Go do good things,
BT
Quick question. When is the last time you've called up your grandma or grandpa just to say hi? If your answer is one that causes shame or guilt, please pick up the phone and finish this blog later.
Baby Teacher lesson of the day: Never EVER take your grandparents for granted.
I don't know if anyone has ever loved me more than my grandparents. I lost my Grandpa Parker, so I can't speak of him in the present tense, but I would have little issue in saying that I was the miniature love of his life. I am sure the same could be said for any of you reading this.
Grandparents are the cute, cuddly people who want to know every minute detail of your life wrapped in between hugs and card games. They want to hear of every personal triumph from a promotion to a successful oil change so that they can brag to every single person who they come in contact with that they do in fact have the most wonderful grandchild in the world. It's the truth. Grandparents have a love for their grandchildren that's impossible to explain. Sometimes I catch my grandma just staring at me with the cutest smile on her face. She asks me a 101 questions (even though I see her almost daily) because cares more than anything that I am happy and successful.
Don't take these people for granted. Don't let weeks pass without communicating with them. Tell them you love them. Share your stories. Visit them just because. Bring dinner and watch "Who Wants to Be a Millionaire" or "Bonanza" with them. They want nothing more from you than time because they know that their time is becoming even more precious.
Looking back on my life, I missed a lot of parties, nights out with friends, or time that I could have been using to find Mr. Right, but I spent countless hours putting together puzzles, playing cards, baking bread, watching TV, and laughing with the people who own each tiny ounce of my heart. I'll never regret the time with them.
Pick up the iPhone. Call now. :)
Go do good things,
BT
Saturday, October 27, 2012
Lessons from the Bottom
There is little in life that I hate more than losing or failing at anything that I try. I'll admit it. I can put on a smile and tell the other person or team that they did a nice job, but I am seething inside. (Note: This does not count for my brother.) However, I am a sucker for learning lessons. I know I am supposed to learn something from everything I do, and, unfortunately, the most important lessons are learned through tragedy or defeat.
Baby Teacher is here to say you all should join me in searching for the messages and life lessons not when we are flying high but when we have hit the bottom.
"Why did this happen to me? This isn't fair." I think it would be impossible to find a person who has not uttered either of these phrases. Sometimes life is not fair. I can't argue that, but I can and will argue that we are supposed to see or understand something if we take the time to wipe our eyes and pay attention. Each of us needs the moments where we have been knocked down to see the fight each of us has within us. We need to see the strength that maybe we didn't know we possessed. To know how much you can take and still move forward is a true gift.
Besides learning one's own strength, I think some of the other most important lessons to learn are appreciating what you have and learning who truly supports you. We have a tendency of overlooking and taking for granted all of the wonderful blessings we have. When something is taken away from you, it is time to look around and appreciate what you do have. Likewise, notice who sticks by your side when everything crumbles around you. It is easy to be friends with someone when she has an abundance of success, but who is going to stick around when things are in shambles? That's a true friend, and those are the people we need to hold on to for dear life.
Wallow in pity for a day if you need to, but please remove yourself and try to find the lesson. I promise it is worth it.
Go do good things,
BT
Baby Teacher is here to say you all should join me in searching for the messages and life lessons not when we are flying high but when we have hit the bottom.
"Why did this happen to me? This isn't fair." I think it would be impossible to find a person who has not uttered either of these phrases. Sometimes life is not fair. I can't argue that, but I can and will argue that we are supposed to see or understand something if we take the time to wipe our eyes and pay attention. Each of us needs the moments where we have been knocked down to see the fight each of us has within us. We need to see the strength that maybe we didn't know we possessed. To know how much you can take and still move forward is a true gift.
Besides learning one's own strength, I think some of the other most important lessons to learn are appreciating what you have and learning who truly supports you. We have a tendency of overlooking and taking for granted all of the wonderful blessings we have. When something is taken away from you, it is time to look around and appreciate what you do have. Likewise, notice who sticks by your side when everything crumbles around you. It is easy to be friends with someone when she has an abundance of success, but who is going to stick around when things are in shambles? That's a true friend, and those are the people we need to hold on to for dear life.
Wallow in pity for a day if you need to, but please remove yourself and try to find the lesson. I promise it is worth it.
Go do good things,
BT
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
Be...
Hello,
Bed is calling my name shortly, but I have a tiny itch to write tonight. Since I am blessed to have some of the world's most incredible people in my life, I'd thought I write a quick post about how to be like the lovely friends and family who make my life much brighter.
Be willing to do as much for others as they would do for you.
Be trustworthy.
Be able to laugh at yourself.
Be someone who makes others laugh.
Be there for others in good times and in bad.
Be willing to admit when you're wrong and apologize.
Be positive and don't suck the life (and fun) out of situations.
Be ready to dance at all times.
Be a kid at heart. Never lose that infectious playful nature and innocence.
Be spontaneous. Don't live your life in a box.
Be happppy!
Be helpful even when not asked.
Be genuine.
Be a difference maker.
Be influential.
Be the one who listens more than speaks.
Be good to your grandparents.
Be quick to shell out compliments and praise. Hold back unnecessary criticisms.
Be understanding.
Be kind.
Be you.
Just be a person that others want to be around. There is too much negativity and despair in the world; we do not need to add to it. Always find the good in every situation, as this is the key to life. Anyone can find the downside to every single aspect of life. A great person always hunts for the positives. Be one who adds to life, not takes away from it.
Go do good things,
BT
Bed is calling my name shortly, but I have a tiny itch to write tonight. Since I am blessed to have some of the world's most incredible people in my life, I'd thought I write a quick post about how to be like the lovely friends and family who make my life much brighter.
Be willing to do as much for others as they would do for you.
Be trustworthy.
Be able to laugh at yourself.
Be someone who makes others laugh.
Be there for others in good times and in bad.
Be willing to admit when you're wrong and apologize.
Be positive and don't suck the life (and fun) out of situations.
Be ready to dance at all times.
Be a kid at heart. Never lose that infectious playful nature and innocence.
Be spontaneous. Don't live your life in a box.
Be happppy!
Be helpful even when not asked.
Be genuine.
Be a difference maker.
Be influential.
Be the one who listens more than speaks.
Be good to your grandparents.
Be quick to shell out compliments and praise. Hold back unnecessary criticisms.
Be understanding.
Be kind.
Be you.
Just be a person that others want to be around. There is too much negativity and despair in the world; we do not need to add to it. Always find the good in every situation, as this is the key to life. Anyone can find the downside to every single aspect of life. A great person always hunts for the positives. Be one who adds to life, not takes away from it.
Go do good things,
BT
Sunday, September 9, 2012
Do What's Right for You
Hello,
I have greatly missed writing my posts, but I have not had much extra time lately. I decided it was now or never.
I have been inspired for this post by a former student of mine who turned to me for some advice on a big life decision. While sparing the details for the sake of anonymity, I found myself impressed with the strength and maturity this young lady exhibited during this hard time. The decision basically boiled down to sticking with something that she loved and had done her whole life or staying in a situation that was ruining who she was and taking away her happiness. Now, it may seem easy for you to make this decision, but there were many factors that made this the hardest decision that she ever made. The biggest fear she faced was the fear of failure.
Here is what I have to say about that:
Failure is not walking away from something when it hurts you.
Failure is not standing up and demanding to be treated fairly.
Failure is not wanting more for yourself.
Failure is not looking out for yourself.
Failure is letting people make you feel inferior and afraid.
Failure is not ensuring your own happiness and sanity.
I am fully aware of the stigma of being a "quitter." I have an intense emotional fear of it myself, but there are times when one must walk away from things or people who were/are a valued part of life. There are times when even things/people who you love are just not right anymore. No one should ever consider you a failure for quitting anything or anyone who causes you pain. If there are people who do, they are not a necessary part of your life. Those who love you will understand and support you.
You are the only one who is ultimately in control of your peace of mind and happiness. You can't allow others to take the reigns. People will take you for spins and loops that often leave you out of sorts. You have to know what you need and demand it. When faced with a tough decision between two things, never worry about failure. Worry about your personal health. Worry about you.
Go do good things,
BT
I have greatly missed writing my posts, but I have not had much extra time lately. I decided it was now or never.
I have been inspired for this post by a former student of mine who turned to me for some advice on a big life decision. While sparing the details for the sake of anonymity, I found myself impressed with the strength and maturity this young lady exhibited during this hard time. The decision basically boiled down to sticking with something that she loved and had done her whole life or staying in a situation that was ruining who she was and taking away her happiness. Now, it may seem easy for you to make this decision, but there were many factors that made this the hardest decision that she ever made. The biggest fear she faced was the fear of failure.
Here is what I have to say about that:
Failure is not walking away from something when it hurts you.
Failure is not standing up and demanding to be treated fairly.
Failure is not wanting more for yourself.
Failure is not looking out for yourself.
Failure is letting people make you feel inferior and afraid.
Failure is not ensuring your own happiness and sanity.
I am fully aware of the stigma of being a "quitter." I have an intense emotional fear of it myself, but there are times when one must walk away from things or people who were/are a valued part of life. There are times when even things/people who you love are just not right anymore. No one should ever consider you a failure for quitting anything or anyone who causes you pain. If there are people who do, they are not a necessary part of your life. Those who love you will understand and support you.
You are the only one who is ultimately in control of your peace of mind and happiness. You can't allow others to take the reigns. People will take you for spins and loops that often leave you out of sorts. You have to know what you need and demand it. When faced with a tough decision between two things, never worry about failure. Worry about your personal health. Worry about you.
Go do good things,
BT
Sunday, August 19, 2012
Breathe. Believe. Battle.
Hi,
The likelihood of me having any type of scheduled postings for the next few months is slim to none. I apologize in advance, so I will try to make the few that I get in worth the read!
More and more, I find many of the people that I know (including myself) struggling to stay afloat with all of life's obligations/difficulties. The mounds of work that needs to get done daily or just unforeseen troubles leaves behind it a blanket of stress and exhaustion that often feels overwhelming. If it isn't something at work, it is something at home or something with a group you may be involved in. No matter what, you're being pulled in 10 different directions and are unable to get your head on straight.
I have some advice for everyone that I am trying to always keep in mind. Breathe. Believe. Battle.
In those moments where you may feel like giving up or that you just can't deal with much more, it is crucial to stop and calm down. We are never given more than we can handle, even though it seems as though we are pushed to our limit many times. In these instances, take my advice. Breathe. Stop and take a deep breath. Try and calm yourself if even just a bit. Forget past mistakes and clear your mind. Believe. Believe that you can do anything that is needed of you. I've always been told, "It always gets done." It is true. Somehow we always get finished what needs to be finished or overcome any calamity thrown at us, so we have to always make sure that we keep that in mind. Believe that you can do anything. Lastly, Battle. Dig in and chip away at the mound of tasks that lies ahead or battle the pain that lies before you. Don't fall apart because the task looks daunting. A true test of character finds itself in moments of overwhelming adversity. Are you going to fold and throw in the towel? Or are you going to battle back and push to succeed? Battling makes you strong. Strength is invaluable.
I may be young and inexperienced in many of life's lessons, but I have faced the struggle of taking on too much or facing a situation that seems insurmountable. I have felt that feeling of inability to rise to occasion or simply getting it all done and done the way it should be. Many of you, just like me, need to breath, believe, and battle. You're stronger than you know.
Go do good things,
BT
The likelihood of me having any type of scheduled postings for the next few months is slim to none. I apologize in advance, so I will try to make the few that I get in worth the read!
More and more, I find many of the people that I know (including myself) struggling to stay afloat with all of life's obligations/difficulties. The mounds of work that needs to get done daily or just unforeseen troubles leaves behind it a blanket of stress and exhaustion that often feels overwhelming. If it isn't something at work, it is something at home or something with a group you may be involved in. No matter what, you're being pulled in 10 different directions and are unable to get your head on straight.
I have some advice for everyone that I am trying to always keep in mind. Breathe. Believe. Battle.
In those moments where you may feel like giving up or that you just can't deal with much more, it is crucial to stop and calm down. We are never given more than we can handle, even though it seems as though we are pushed to our limit many times. In these instances, take my advice. Breathe. Stop and take a deep breath. Try and calm yourself if even just a bit. Forget past mistakes and clear your mind. Believe. Believe that you can do anything that is needed of you. I've always been told, "It always gets done." It is true. Somehow we always get finished what needs to be finished or overcome any calamity thrown at us, so we have to always make sure that we keep that in mind. Believe that you can do anything. Lastly, Battle. Dig in and chip away at the mound of tasks that lies ahead or battle the pain that lies before you. Don't fall apart because the task looks daunting. A true test of character finds itself in moments of overwhelming adversity. Are you going to fold and throw in the towel? Or are you going to battle back and push to succeed? Battling makes you strong. Strength is invaluable.
I may be young and inexperienced in many of life's lessons, but I have faced the struggle of taking on too much or facing a situation that seems insurmountable. I have felt that feeling of inability to rise to occasion or simply getting it all done and done the way it should be. Many of you, just like me, need to breath, believe, and battle. You're stronger than you know.
Go do good things,
BT
Monday, August 13, 2012
Empower Others
Hi,
I recently attended a state coaching conference. (Imagine a kid in a candy store...that was me.) Anywho, John Kessel, a representative from USA Volleyball, was the keynote speaker. At one point, Mr. Kessel said that boys are player empowered, and girls are coach empowered. Cue Oprah's Aha Moment.
Why is it that girls need approval from others instead of themselves? Most girls need to be told what to do and when to do it even if they are capable of figuring out everything on their own. When we make a mistake, we look for guidance. When we do something well, we look for the ever necessary thumbs up.
We need to make all females self empowered. Yes, there are times that we need help when we are unsure, and it never hurts to get a pat on the back, but teaching girls to figure out issues themselves and instill intrinsic motivation will be something that sticks with them all their lives. We are not helping anyone by taking their personal power away. There will be times when all one has to turn to is him or herself. It will be in those desperate times that this will be crucial. The truth is that we don't NEED anyone in our lives; we WANT them. All we truly need is our self and a little bit of gumption.
Breathe. Believe. Battle. That's what need need to all remember. No matter what the situation or how tall the obstacle, we all need to take a breath, believe we can do it, and then battle it out. The reward is so much sweeter when we do it on our own.
Go do good things,
BT
I recently attended a state coaching conference. (Imagine a kid in a candy store...that was me.) Anywho, John Kessel, a representative from USA Volleyball, was the keynote speaker. At one point, Mr. Kessel said that boys are player empowered, and girls are coach empowered. Cue Oprah's Aha Moment.
Why is it that girls need approval from others instead of themselves? Most girls need to be told what to do and when to do it even if they are capable of figuring out everything on their own. When we make a mistake, we look for guidance. When we do something well, we look for the ever necessary thumbs up.
We need to make all females self empowered. Yes, there are times that we need help when we are unsure, and it never hurts to get a pat on the back, but teaching girls to figure out issues themselves and instill intrinsic motivation will be something that sticks with them all their lives. We are not helping anyone by taking their personal power away. There will be times when all one has to turn to is him or herself. It will be in those desperate times that this will be crucial. The truth is that we don't NEED anyone in our lives; we WANT them. All we truly need is our self and a little bit of gumption.
Breathe. Believe. Battle. That's what need need to all remember. No matter what the situation or how tall the obstacle, we all need to take a breath, believe we can do it, and then battle it out. The reward is so much sweeter when we do it on our own.
Go do good things,
BT
Sunday, July 29, 2012
Find the Meaning
Hi, all.
It's crazy that August is just a few days away. I can't quite figure out where summer went. I think this will be a line I find myself repeating each year until I retire.
I had an "Aha moment" yesterday due to a much needed text conversation with an amazing friend. I was detailing my busy upcoming schedule, and I told her that I no longer had a life. She then said, "It has new meaning now." It was like someone slapped me and knocked some sense into me.
We all have so much going on in our lives. It is constant and sometimes overwhelming, but it is something that we must choose to embrace. Our lives are constantly changing whether that is because of relationships, work, or family. Change, while sometimes scary, is good for all of us. Every new turn or change adds new meaning in our lives. We only live once. It's important to put everything we have into the people and aspects of our lives that mean the most to us.
My advice today is to always find the meaning in every thing that you do. Finding the meaning makes all the time and effort you put into the many aspects of your life worth while. If you don't find the meaning, you'll end up resenting everything and being miserable. Likewise, don't waste your time on things or people who you can't find true meaning in. Our time is precious and should only be given when it is important.
Yes, my free time will be hard to locate for the next few months, but my life is full of meaning now. I am ok with my time being monopolized by a group of young ladies who have the same goal as I do. It is all worth it. Big thanks to my incredible friend for helping me see the light.
Go do good things,
BT
Saturday, July 21, 2012
Make Gratitude Your Attitude
Hi, everyone. :)
I am hoping this post finds you well. I am doing great today! Can't complain about one thing except the Weight Watcher ice cream bars that I bought. I was pumped to see an ice cream bar that had one gram of fat and eighty calories. I opened the box up to find that each bar was not too much larger than my thumb. Depressing. I digress. :)
Today, I have decided to write about an idea that I am going to start today. I invite all of you to try it with me. Each day I am reminded how precious life really is and how I need to truly soak up each second. While I may have my issues and trials, I have been blessed beyond compare, and I would be ungrateful if I didn't spend time each day expressing my gratitude.
Oprah, my life Yoda, has talked for years about keeping a gratitude journal. It may sound silly to some, but apparently all those who do this find themselves so much happier at the end of the day. Not only do you take time to reflect on what happened to you during the day, you also force yourself to be aware of little blessings as they happen to you, whether that be someone holding the door for you or receiving a call from a loved one. I truly feel awareness is the key to a happy life. We are keenly aware of any negatives that invade our lives, and we often spend much time dwelling on why it happened and what that means for the future. We are not, however, as aware of the many great things that happen to us each day. Attitude is a choice. I don't care what anyone says; it is. If you choose to be happy and focus on the positives, you'll be a happier person. It is that simple. Life is a gift. Downfalls and tragedies are inevitable in our lives, just try not to only focus on those details.
Each night before you go to sleep, let's both keep a gratitude journal. Write 3-5 different things that you're grateful for. Try to be specific. I am going to do mine for you today as an example. :)
Just be happy. Notice the little blessings that surround you each day. Focus on the positives, and love each day that you're here!
Go do good things,
BT
Gratitude journal 7/21/12
1. I am grateful for the letter I received today from a college friend. It was nice to know that she thought of me.
2. I am grateful that I get to go to my grandma's house and play double solitaire with her. She'll probably kick my butt, but I love that time with her.
3. I am grateful for my sunburn (I know, weird) today because even though it hurts a bit, hanging out in the sun with my friend yesterday was so much fun. :)
Friday, July 20, 2012
No Need to be Perfect
Happy Friday, everyone!
I wanted to write about something that has plagued me my whole life: the fight with perfection. Ever since I can remember, I have been the girl who has constantly beat herself up for not being absolutely "perfect." It still to this day is a battle I face.
The idea of perfection is completely subjective. No one has been perfect except, I think, a gymnast before my time. Other than that, it is merely an idea that we have created in our heads. I don't know if we have created this idea to enhance competition, as a way to make money, or as a way to gauge ourselves. What I do know is that striving to be absolutely perfect and the ramifications of not reaching the goal are more harmful than helpful.
After losing my 4.0 and thus falling from the "perfect" plateau, my very best friend told me that my "B+" added character. I didn't understand what it meant at the time, but that has stuck with me ever since. I have thought about it many times. Our little flaws make us who we are; they make us stronger. However, we often look at our flaws as a downfall or impediment. That's completely untrue. If everyone walked around without any adversity or trials, no one would have that inner strength that pulls us through times where we think all hope is lost. That, to me, is worth each fall from grace I have taken. I know that I can pick myself up from anything. If I was perfect, I would not have a clue.
Not only that, the fact that we aren't perfect keeps us working towards bigger and better things. Whether it be yourself or human kind in general, we all need to strive for betterment. I can always be a better teacher, advisor, or coach. There will never be a perfect lesson, practice, or yearbook. As much as that irritates me, it also makes me excited to see what I can achieve if I keep working harder. That's how we should all think. Instead of beating ourselves up for not being perfect, we should take it as a chance to improve on what we have done. Never settle, but don't berate yourself for not reaching perfection.
At the end of the day, if you know that you did your very best with what you were given, you should be proud. Perfection is a made up idea. No one can be perfect. No one. Be happy with who you are and the bumps in the road you've faced. After all, it adds character. :)
Go do good things,
BT
I wanted to write about something that has plagued me my whole life: the fight with perfection. Ever since I can remember, I have been the girl who has constantly beat herself up for not being absolutely "perfect." It still to this day is a battle I face.
The idea of perfection is completely subjective. No one has been perfect except, I think, a gymnast before my time. Other than that, it is merely an idea that we have created in our heads. I don't know if we have created this idea to enhance competition, as a way to make money, or as a way to gauge ourselves. What I do know is that striving to be absolutely perfect and the ramifications of not reaching the goal are more harmful than helpful.
After losing my 4.0 and thus falling from the "perfect" plateau, my very best friend told me that my "B+" added character. I didn't understand what it meant at the time, but that has stuck with me ever since. I have thought about it many times. Our little flaws make us who we are; they make us stronger. However, we often look at our flaws as a downfall or impediment. That's completely untrue. If everyone walked around without any adversity or trials, no one would have that inner strength that pulls us through times where we think all hope is lost. That, to me, is worth each fall from grace I have taken. I know that I can pick myself up from anything. If I was perfect, I would not have a clue.
Not only that, the fact that we aren't perfect keeps us working towards bigger and better things. Whether it be yourself or human kind in general, we all need to strive for betterment. I can always be a better teacher, advisor, or coach. There will never be a perfect lesson, practice, or yearbook. As much as that irritates me, it also makes me excited to see what I can achieve if I keep working harder. That's how we should all think. Instead of beating ourselves up for not being perfect, we should take it as a chance to improve on what we have done. Never settle, but don't berate yourself for not reaching perfection.
At the end of the day, if you know that you did your very best with what you were given, you should be proud. Perfection is a made up idea. No one can be perfect. No one. Be happy with who you are and the bumps in the road you've faced. After all, it adds character. :)
Go do good things,
BT
Wednesday, July 18, 2012
Little Eyes
Hello!
Baby Teacher is also a Baby Coach, which leads to busy days. I apologize it has taken so long for me to conjure up another post.
Unless you decide to move to a remote part of Antarctica or become a self sufficient hermit, you will be surrounded by people daily. While it's important to always set a good example for everyone, you need to be extra cognizant of the little eyes that are watching you. There are very few things more important than being a good role model for the younger generation.
Kids are a ball of clay. When they are young, they are set out on the table, and each person whom they come in contact with starts kneading and molding the clay. Their little eyes are drawn to the older people around them for guidance and lessons on how to act, think, and communicate. They often emulate what they see. Give them a positive example. If you show them how to communicate with words and not with their fists, you'll create a child who can keep their cool and rationally work through differences. If you show them respect and the importance of respecting others, you'll create a child who exhibits empathy and concern for the feelings of others. If you show them hard work, you'll create a child who pushes him or herself constantly and doesn't settle when times get a little hard. It's a scary thought, but those who are around youth truly have that much power. Be someone who'd you want your kid to be like. Don't be careless around young children. Even the smallest lack of concern can impact a child for the rest of his/her life. Help build the kid into someone that he/she can be proud of. Being a positive role model for the youth is invaluable.
Little eyes are always watching. Tread carefully. Care about them. Love them. Support them. Be someone worth emulating. :)
Go do good things,
BT
Baby Teacher is also a Baby Coach, which leads to busy days. I apologize it has taken so long for me to conjure up another post.
Unless you decide to move to a remote part of Antarctica or become a self sufficient hermit, you will be surrounded by people daily. While it's important to always set a good example for everyone, you need to be extra cognizant of the little eyes that are watching you. There are very few things more important than being a good role model for the younger generation.
Kids are a ball of clay. When they are young, they are set out on the table, and each person whom they come in contact with starts kneading and molding the clay. Their little eyes are drawn to the older people around them for guidance and lessons on how to act, think, and communicate. They often emulate what they see. Give them a positive example. If you show them how to communicate with words and not with their fists, you'll create a child who can keep their cool and rationally work through differences. If you show them respect and the importance of respecting others, you'll create a child who exhibits empathy and concern for the feelings of others. If you show them hard work, you'll create a child who pushes him or herself constantly and doesn't settle when times get a little hard. It's a scary thought, but those who are around youth truly have that much power. Be someone who'd you want your kid to be like. Don't be careless around young children. Even the smallest lack of concern can impact a child for the rest of his/her life. Help build the kid into someone that he/she can be proud of. Being a positive role model for the youth is invaluable.
Little eyes are always watching. Tread carefully. Care about them. Love them. Support them. Be someone worth emulating. :)
Go do good things,
BT
Sunday, July 8, 2012
Say Something
Hello!
My favorite times in my classroom are the "teachable moments" that arise more often than one might think. It is in these moments when the planned lesson stops due to a comment I hear or an issue that I see. After a statement during my first year of teaching about how students are unable to stop bullying, I took the opportunity to talk about the unnerving trend that I see with kids and adults alike: the silent witness.
Unfortunately, there will always be evil and ignorance in the world. To try to stop each instance of this would be almost impossible. What concerns me the most are the times when people see cases of others treating another person in an unkind manner and say nothing. This is the silent witness. I once watched an Oprah episode with the Little Rock Nine. Not only were all the students back, but Oprah brought white students who were classmates of the original integrators. One of the white students, now a middle aged man, felt an extreme amount of guilt, not for bullying the Little Rock Nine or being violent, but because he watched it and said absolutely nothing.
We humans have the obligation to stand up and speak out against any who are mistreating others. To not say anything puts us in the same category as the bully. I know there are the thoughts, "It is none of my business. I don't want to get involved." Human kindness is all of our business. No person should be verbally or physically abused for any reason whatsoever. It takes one person to step up and do the right thing. Just one. Others will follow. Will ignorance and evil ever be stopped? Probably not, but, collectively, we can make a difference.
Staying silent is never the way to go. Staying silent may not seem like that big of a deal, but historically, it has been the catalyst to horrors like slavery, the Holocaust, sexism, etc. Speak up. One person can make more of a difference that you might think.
Go do good things,
BT
My favorite times in my classroom are the "teachable moments" that arise more often than one might think. It is in these moments when the planned lesson stops due to a comment I hear or an issue that I see. After a statement during my first year of teaching about how students are unable to stop bullying, I took the opportunity to talk about the unnerving trend that I see with kids and adults alike: the silent witness.
Unfortunately, there will always be evil and ignorance in the world. To try to stop each instance of this would be almost impossible. What concerns me the most are the times when people see cases of others treating another person in an unkind manner and say nothing. This is the silent witness. I once watched an Oprah episode with the Little Rock Nine. Not only were all the students back, but Oprah brought white students who were classmates of the original integrators. One of the white students, now a middle aged man, felt an extreme amount of guilt, not for bullying the Little Rock Nine or being violent, but because he watched it and said absolutely nothing.
We humans have the obligation to stand up and speak out against any who are mistreating others. To not say anything puts us in the same category as the bully. I know there are the thoughts, "It is none of my business. I don't want to get involved." Human kindness is all of our business. No person should be verbally or physically abused for any reason whatsoever. It takes one person to step up and do the right thing. Just one. Others will follow. Will ignorance and evil ever be stopped? Probably not, but, collectively, we can make a difference.
Staying silent is never the way to go. Staying silent may not seem like that big of a deal, but historically, it has been the catalyst to horrors like slavery, the Holocaust, sexism, etc. Speak up. One person can make more of a difference that you might think.
Go do good things,
BT
Saturday, July 7, 2012
Be Contagious
Hi!
My message today is simple and quick. Be contagious. I am not urging you to spread the common cold or any other unwanted illness. I want you all to be contagious with your personality, work ethic, zest for life, determination, or any other desirable quality.
We all know those people in our lives who we love to be around. They are fun, make us laugh, will us to work harder, or just make us appreciate what we have. Those types of people are a true treasure in our lives. Be one of them. Be so happy that you make others happy, too. Laugh, smile, be silly and bring others along for the ride.
Life is short but undeniably special. Seize each day and suck every last ounce that you can out of it. When you do that, you'll have followers. People will want to be around you in hopes that your happiness will rub off on them. A laugh and smile are contagious. Catch one and pass it on. Don't be bogged down by any insignificant aspects of life. The little things can pile up if you let them. If you go through each day thinking about all that you're grateful for rather than what you didn't get, you'll radiate joy. Life is so much better living in the sunshine rather than the gloom.
That's my long awaited message. Be the type of person who you want to be around. Work hard, enjoy life, love those around you, and just be happy. Please don't search out and highlight what you didn't get or what should have been. Look at all the incredibly wonderful people, treasures, and life that you were granted. Find the good in all that you do. Once you do this, you will be contagious.
Go do good things,
BT
Go do good things,
BT
Saturday, June 30, 2012
What Students Don't Know...
Hello, all.
I am here to set the record straight once and for all. I am going to debunk a myth that too many people believe. You all must know the sacred truth that it is the students, NOT the teachers, who make the impact and have the biggest influence.
Say what? While I love the praise that teachers get for the difference they often make in students' lives, I in no way will ever impact students as much as they have impacted me. We teachers are the lucky ones. Sure we have some ever challenging students who make each day an adventure, but the good far FAR outweighs the bad. I am surrounded daily by young adults who amaze and inspire me with their creativity, intelligence, kindness, humor, determination, bravery, and maturity. I work with kids who when outside the school walls are faced with obstacles that I would never wish upon my worst enemy, yet those students come and give me their best each day. They work hard to ensure that their future will be different than their present. I have students who are exhausted due to working until 2 AM because they are helping their parents pay the bills. They have a determination that I dream of having.
I have students who I know will change the world. They see things in a different way. They have a love for others and a passion for making a difference that leaves me speechless.
We have students who turn in work like this: a painting entitled "Color Blind" about equality that is mindbogglingly powerful. There is the fist symbolizing equality for African Americans, and the top two hands is how one would say "equal" in sign language. Students do work like this, and teachers say that we make a difference? No way.
I have only taught for two years, hence Baby Teacher, but my life has been changed forever by all of my students. My students are my heroes. I am beyond blessed to work with such remarkable human beings. I refuse to wear the super hero cape. I give that back to all of the kids sitting in the desks in room J.12. Those are the real difference makers. I may not have the biggest bank account, but I know my heart is full of pride and admiration for all my students.
Go do good things,
BT
I am here to set the record straight once and for all. I am going to debunk a myth that too many people believe. You all must know the sacred truth that it is the students, NOT the teachers, who make the impact and have the biggest influence.
Say what? While I love the praise that teachers get for the difference they often make in students' lives, I in no way will ever impact students as much as they have impacted me. We teachers are the lucky ones. Sure we have some ever challenging students who make each day an adventure, but the good far FAR outweighs the bad. I am surrounded daily by young adults who amaze and inspire me with their creativity, intelligence, kindness, humor, determination, bravery, and maturity. I work with kids who when outside the school walls are faced with obstacles that I would never wish upon my worst enemy, yet those students come and give me their best each day. They work hard to ensure that their future will be different than their present. I have students who are exhausted due to working until 2 AM because they are helping their parents pay the bills. They have a determination that I dream of having.
I have students who I know will change the world. They see things in a different way. They have a love for others and a passion for making a difference that leaves me speechless.
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| Project turned in for Mrs. Rogers' class after reading Secret Life of Bees |
I have only taught for two years, hence Baby Teacher, but my life has been changed forever by all of my students. My students are my heroes. I am beyond blessed to work with such remarkable human beings. I refuse to wear the super hero cape. I give that back to all of the kids sitting in the desks in room J.12. Those are the real difference makers. I may not have the biggest bank account, but I know my heart is full of pride and admiration for all my students.
Go do good things,
BT
Thursday, June 28, 2012
MY Bad
Well, hello! :)
I am not sure who taught me this invaluable life lesson, but I am sure am grateful for it now. I want to talk about apologies. There undoubtedly have been times where you had to give an apology or were owed an apology. It is a part of life. Today, I'd like to focus on the apologies that we must give and touch on their importance to be done correctly.
Here is the apology that makes me want to pluck each tendril from my head: "I am sorry for what I did, but YOU..." Time out. Freeze. Stop right there. At what point did the apology go from being about you to being about me? Why on earth are we incapable of giving an apology that just says what we did wrong? Yeah, I am sure the other person is at fault for something, but let them figure that out. When someone says the dreaded "but you," immediately our ears shut down and our anger rises due to the fact that we are receiving an empty apology. It's like holding out an engagement ring box only to find there is no ring inside. A fake apology does nothing but stir up more trouble. It you're truly upset at what you did or said, then just say that. Pointing the fingers while asking for forgiveness washes away any healing steps that were taken.
When we apologize, we often want immediate gratification--an apology back. We end up hurt if we are not kowtowed to in return. Life doesn't work that way. The best apology is a sincere one. No one wants an "I'm sorry" that holds no remorse for what was done or one that holds no promise. We have to be willing to atone for our mistakes, not for a reciprocation but for our own good. It is human nature to err, but it takes real character and humility to admit when we have wronged another. You also have to be willing to accept the possibility of the apology not fixing the situation. "I am sorry" bandages many issues, but sometimes it can't mend everything. Give the apology and take the response maturely.
There you have it. Repent but repent with sincerity and without expectations of anything in return. Focus on your errors, and never ever throw in the "but you." You're the only one in control of you. It doesn't matter what the other person did. They have to apologize on their own terms. You can't force it. Take ownership of your own actions and fix what you did. :)
Go do good things,
BT
I am not sure who taught me this invaluable life lesson, but I am sure am grateful for it now. I want to talk about apologies. There undoubtedly have been times where you had to give an apology or were owed an apology. It is a part of life. Today, I'd like to focus on the apologies that we must give and touch on their importance to be done correctly.
Here is the apology that makes me want to pluck each tendril from my head: "I am sorry for what I did, but YOU..." Time out. Freeze. Stop right there. At what point did the apology go from being about you to being about me? Why on earth are we incapable of giving an apology that just says what we did wrong? Yeah, I am sure the other person is at fault for something, but let them figure that out. When someone says the dreaded "but you," immediately our ears shut down and our anger rises due to the fact that we are receiving an empty apology. It's like holding out an engagement ring box only to find there is no ring inside. A fake apology does nothing but stir up more trouble. It you're truly upset at what you did or said, then just say that. Pointing the fingers while asking for forgiveness washes away any healing steps that were taken.
When we apologize, we often want immediate gratification--an apology back. We end up hurt if we are not kowtowed to in return. Life doesn't work that way. The best apology is a sincere one. No one wants an "I'm sorry" that holds no remorse for what was done or one that holds no promise. We have to be willing to atone for our mistakes, not for a reciprocation but for our own good. It is human nature to err, but it takes real character and humility to admit when we have wronged another. You also have to be willing to accept the possibility of the apology not fixing the situation. "I am sorry" bandages many issues, but sometimes it can't mend everything. Give the apology and take the response maturely.
There you have it. Repent but repent with sincerity and without expectations of anything in return. Focus on your errors, and never ever throw in the "but you." You're the only one in control of you. It doesn't matter what the other person did. They have to apologize on their own terms. You can't force it. Take ownership of your own actions and fix what you did. :)
Go do good things,
BT
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Powerful Beyond Measure
Hi, folks.
I am easily motivated. I watch something where someone rises to a challenge, and I immediately am ready to jump off the couch and change the world.
I am going to attach a video that I'd like you to watch first. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OSYtQy9EqTA
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." -Marianne Williamson
Don't be afraid of your own light. If you are capable of greatness, you should achieve it. Each of us has greatness in us. It is our job to tap into that potential and do amazing things with it. Greatness is different for each of us; we each have our own path. Do not let anything or anyone stop you in your tracks. Like the video said, many people give up on their dreams or goals either because people are trying to bring them down or life gets too hard. Here is what I have learned in my "long" 25 years of life: There will ALWAYS be people who try to stop you, and life is never going to be easy.
It is a human flaw to criticize others in order to make yourself feel more adequate. It is a terrible thing that too many people fall in to. I can't say that I know too many people who enjoy being ripped apart by others, but like I said in "Brush It Off," what they say doesn't matter. It's what you tell yourself that matters. Don't give people against you any power over who you are or what you want to become. If you give them the power, I can guarantee what the end result will be. Don't blame others for not getting where you want to be and say they were mean or held you down. The only person that can hold you down is yourself. YOU are powerful beyond measure and can do anything you want. People cannot stop you if you do not let them.
It is also a human flaw to stop when life gets too hard. Guess what? Life will never be easy. Life will knock you down and kick you while you on the ground; however, I think it is only for our benefit. There is so much more to learn when you're on the ground then when you're sailing high. When you get knocked down, you learn how strong you really are. You learn what you can take. You learn that you have the strength to get back up no matter what has been thrown your way. Life being hard isn't meant to be a road block. Life being hard is meant to show you what you're capable of overcoming. Life being hard makes the success that much sweeter because you know what you had to get through to be where you are. Life will never roll over and die, and neither should you. The world needs fighters--people willing to give their all to reach their dreams.
I am easily motivated. I watch something where someone rises to a challenge, and I immediately am ready to jump off the couch and change the world.
I am going to attach a video that I'd like you to watch first. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OSYtQy9EqTA
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." -Marianne Williamson
Don't be afraid of your own light. If you are capable of greatness, you should achieve it. Each of us has greatness in us. It is our job to tap into that potential and do amazing things with it. Greatness is different for each of us; we each have our own path. Do not let anything or anyone stop you in your tracks. Like the video said, many people give up on their dreams or goals either because people are trying to bring them down or life gets too hard. Here is what I have learned in my "long" 25 years of life: There will ALWAYS be people who try to stop you, and life is never going to be easy.
It is a human flaw to criticize others in order to make yourself feel more adequate. It is a terrible thing that too many people fall in to. I can't say that I know too many people who enjoy being ripped apart by others, but like I said in "Brush It Off," what they say doesn't matter. It's what you tell yourself that matters. Don't give people against you any power over who you are or what you want to become. If you give them the power, I can guarantee what the end result will be. Don't blame others for not getting where you want to be and say they were mean or held you down. The only person that can hold you down is yourself. YOU are powerful beyond measure and can do anything you want. People cannot stop you if you do not let them.
It is also a human flaw to stop when life gets too hard. Guess what? Life will never be easy. Life will knock you down and kick you while you on the ground; however, I think it is only for our benefit. There is so much more to learn when you're on the ground then when you're sailing high. When you get knocked down, you learn how strong you really are. You learn what you can take. You learn that you have the strength to get back up no matter what has been thrown your way. Life being hard isn't meant to be a road block. Life being hard is meant to show you what you're capable of overcoming. Life being hard makes the success that much sweeter because you know what you had to get through to be where you are. Life will never roll over and die, and neither should you. The world needs fighters--people willing to give their all to reach their dreams.
I hope this resonates with some of you. Don't let yourself or anyone else hold you back. Don't be afraid of being great. You will meet some along your journey that will try to stop you; don't let them. Life will be there to knock you down; get right back up. Why? Because you are powerful beyond measure.
Go do good things,
BT
Monday, June 25, 2012
Don't Cut Corners
Hello!
Happy Monday! I once saw a poster that read, "Character is who you are when no one is watching." Ah ha! Incredible thought that I felt was crucial in life; thus, I'd like to discuss my thoughts on this topic.
A major flaw that many people have is only giving their best when eyes are on them. People often want a pat on the back or recognition for anything and everything they do. The only problem is when eyes avert off of us. Many will cut corners or give much less than their best. Without the opportunity for praise, so many of us just don't want to push ourselves and give all that we are capable of.
My opinion? Be the best you can be all times. We have to learn that our own personal pride is worth just as much as applause from others. You know the truth. You know when you've cut corners. You know when you've given less than 100% percent. You also know when you are putting on a show just because people are watching. We are only hurting ourselves when we do this. We become okay with giving less than our best. This becomes a trend in many facets of our lives, but when we constantly demand the best of ourselves, we often find that each of us is capable of so much more than we thought.
Be the same "you" when people aren't watching as when they are. Without character, we do not have much. We can't rely on others to give us this. We have to do the right thing simply because it is the right thing to do. We really should not be given a ticker tape parade because we have done what we were supposed to do. It isn't a contest. It isn't about being better than the next person. It is about being the best that you can be because giving the best you have at all time makes you a better, happier person.
Don't work hard just for a pat on the back. Don't work hard just when people are watching. Always push yourself to do your best. You can't buy character. You have to work for it. When you have it though, people notice. :)
Go do good things,
BT
Happy Monday! I once saw a poster that read, "Character is who you are when no one is watching." Ah ha! Incredible thought that I felt was crucial in life; thus, I'd like to discuss my thoughts on this topic.
A major flaw that many people have is only giving their best when eyes are on them. People often want a pat on the back or recognition for anything and everything they do. The only problem is when eyes avert off of us. Many will cut corners or give much less than their best. Without the opportunity for praise, so many of us just don't want to push ourselves and give all that we are capable of.
My opinion? Be the best you can be all times. We have to learn that our own personal pride is worth just as much as applause from others. You know the truth. You know when you've cut corners. You know when you've given less than 100% percent. You also know when you are putting on a show just because people are watching. We are only hurting ourselves when we do this. We become okay with giving less than our best. This becomes a trend in many facets of our lives, but when we constantly demand the best of ourselves, we often find that each of us is capable of so much more than we thought.
Be the same "you" when people aren't watching as when they are. Without character, we do not have much. We can't rely on others to give us this. We have to do the right thing simply because it is the right thing to do. We really should not be given a ticker tape parade because we have done what we were supposed to do. It isn't a contest. It isn't about being better than the next person. It is about being the best that you can be because giving the best you have at all time makes you a better, happier person.
Don't work hard just for a pat on the back. Don't work hard just when people are watching. Always push yourself to do your best. You can't buy character. You have to work for it. When you have it though, people notice. :)
Go do good things,
BT
Friday, June 22, 2012
Brush It Off
Hello. I don't know if I could describe a more perfect summer day if I tried. What a beautiful day. Two blogs in one day! I am overachieving today because I doubt I will get another one in this weekend.
Well, today's post was pretty easy for me to pick. I wanted to discuss the importance of knowing who you are and not letting anyone tear you down. It is human nature to care, even if in the slightest, about what others think or say about us, but we cannot let it consume our lives. There are people who spew venom without truly knowing anything, and we have to learn to let that roll off our backs.
You are the only one who truly knows you. You know what you feel, what you did, and what you're going to do. That is important because there will be others who claim to know all there is to know in each of those categories. Be confident enough in who you are to be able to push aside what you know is not true. If you know you're doing the right thing or that your heart is in the right place, keep your head up and shoulders back. Keep moving forward.
Jealously and hate are two evil things. It's sad when you see it first hand. Please don't let it stop you. Please don't let it shake your convictions or belief in who you are. You are capable of doing everything you put your mind to. Don't let someone put a period where there should be a comma. Don't let anyone's words or actions stop you or make you question yourself. That would only give the people against you pleasure.
Here is what I have found to be true--the people who love you and support you will always be honest with you. If you find yourself unsure, ask them. Ultimately though, you have to listen to your gut. If you can go to bed knowing you did your very best or made the best decision that you could, don't beat yourself up. You are the only one who truly knows you. As Dr. Seuss once said, "Be who you are and said what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." :) Have a great day!
Go do good things,
BT
Well, today's post was pretty easy for me to pick. I wanted to discuss the importance of knowing who you are and not letting anyone tear you down. It is human nature to care, even if in the slightest, about what others think or say about us, but we cannot let it consume our lives. There are people who spew venom without truly knowing anything, and we have to learn to let that roll off our backs.
You are the only one who truly knows you. You know what you feel, what you did, and what you're going to do. That is important because there will be others who claim to know all there is to know in each of those categories. Be confident enough in who you are to be able to push aside what you know is not true. If you know you're doing the right thing or that your heart is in the right place, keep your head up and shoulders back. Keep moving forward.
Jealously and hate are two evil things. It's sad when you see it first hand. Please don't let it stop you. Please don't let it shake your convictions or belief in who you are. You are capable of doing everything you put your mind to. Don't let someone put a period where there should be a comma. Don't let anyone's words or actions stop you or make you question yourself. That would only give the people against you pleasure.
Here is what I have found to be true--the people who love you and support you will always be honest with you. If you find yourself unsure, ask them. Ultimately though, you have to listen to your gut. If you can go to bed knowing you did your very best or made the best decision that you could, don't beat yourself up. You are the only one who truly knows you. As Dr. Seuss once said, "Be who you are and said what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." :) Have a great day!
Go do good things,
BT
Real Life Heroes
Good morning, everyone. I hope your day is wonderful. :)
I wanted to talk about and pay respect to my heroes. I have been lucky enough to meet people who have completely changed me for the better. These ladies are once in a lifetime sort of people. I don't think I could find others like them. This takes nothing away from my other friends; these ladies just play multiple roles. I'd like to talk to you today about three people: Ernie Pyle, Mrs. Rogers, and Super Woman. (Nicknames are difficult to come up with, so don't laugh at me too much.)
Ernie Pyle: I pray that everyone has someone like this in her life. I met her when I was 16, and she is the biggest reason that I am doing what I am today. She has inspired me since day one. She is kind, giving, friendly, loyal, funny, smart, strong, and is always there when I need her. It's hard to come up with words to say about her because I can't think of anything that would truly do her justice. I will never be able to repay her for all she has done for me. She is equal to none in my eyes. I have said it before, but I would love to be even half the person she is. Thanks, Ernie. :) You (and all of the "Pyles") are truly irreplaceable.
Mrs. Rogers: Oh, my. Where do I even begin? Hilarious. She is easily the funniest person that I know. I never worry about much when I am around her because I am having too much fun. That's what I love most about her. I can forget about anything that is bothering me. We just laugh, do stupid things (always legal, of course), and have a blast. I love being around her because I feel like I am a much happier person. Even with all of this, I still can tell her anything. She is always there to help when my "25-year-old life ending" problems arise. She is absolutely incredible. She has taught me to not worry so much, soak up every minute, and just be happy. Mrs. Rogers, you rock. So glad I met you and your wonderful family.
Super Woman: I don't know that I have ever met anyone like this lady. Most people would crumble dealing with half of the things she has had to go through in her life, but she still stands tall and moves forward. I want to soak up every second I have with her because I know that I am by someone who is incredibly special. No matter what is going on in her life, she always wants to know what is happening with me. She is a constant support and a wealth of knowledge. I have the utmost respect for all she is and does. I have shared some of the most special times in my life with her. We've had side splitting laughter and gut wrenching tears. Through it all, I know we'll always share a special bond. I hope she knows how much I love and admire her. :)
My life is full of extraordinary people, but I must put a spotlight on these three. I wouldn't be who I am without them. I owe them the world. I don't know what I have done to deserve them in my life, but I won't question it. I will simply enjoy every chance I get to be around these incredible ladies.
Go do good things,
BT
I wanted to talk about and pay respect to my heroes. I have been lucky enough to meet people who have completely changed me for the better. These ladies are once in a lifetime sort of people. I don't think I could find others like them. This takes nothing away from my other friends; these ladies just play multiple roles. I'd like to talk to you today about three people: Ernie Pyle, Mrs. Rogers, and Super Woman. (Nicknames are difficult to come up with, so don't laugh at me too much.)
Ernie Pyle: I pray that everyone has someone like this in her life. I met her when I was 16, and she is the biggest reason that I am doing what I am today. She has inspired me since day one. She is kind, giving, friendly, loyal, funny, smart, strong, and is always there when I need her. It's hard to come up with words to say about her because I can't think of anything that would truly do her justice. I will never be able to repay her for all she has done for me. She is equal to none in my eyes. I have said it before, but I would love to be even half the person she is. Thanks, Ernie. :) You (and all of the "Pyles") are truly irreplaceable.
Mrs. Rogers: Oh, my. Where do I even begin? Hilarious. She is easily the funniest person that I know. I never worry about much when I am around her because I am having too much fun. That's what I love most about her. I can forget about anything that is bothering me. We just laugh, do stupid things (always legal, of course), and have a blast. I love being around her because I feel like I am a much happier person. Even with all of this, I still can tell her anything. She is always there to help when my "25-year-old life ending" problems arise. She is absolutely incredible. She has taught me to not worry so much, soak up every minute, and just be happy. Mrs. Rogers, you rock. So glad I met you and your wonderful family.
Super Woman: I don't know that I have ever met anyone like this lady. Most people would crumble dealing with half of the things she has had to go through in her life, but she still stands tall and moves forward. I want to soak up every second I have with her because I know that I am by someone who is incredibly special. No matter what is going on in her life, she always wants to know what is happening with me. She is a constant support and a wealth of knowledge. I have the utmost respect for all she is and does. I have shared some of the most special times in my life with her. We've had side splitting laughter and gut wrenching tears. Through it all, I know we'll always share a special bond. I hope she knows how much I love and admire her. :)
My life is full of extraordinary people, but I must put a spotlight on these three. I wouldn't be who I am without them. I owe them the world. I don't know what I have done to deserve them in my life, but I won't question it. I will simply enjoy every chance I get to be around these incredible ladies.
Go do good things,
BT
Thursday, June 21, 2012
The Quirkier the Better
Hi, friends.
I am here today to tell you this one thing: sing in the car. You may be saying, "What, BT? Where is this coming from? You've been all serious and inspirational. Now, you're telling me to sing in my car?" I sure am.
This blog transpired today from my own personal rendition of Beyonce's "Irreplaceable." I have a full out chair dance to this song. I am able to do it with one hand on the wheel or with my knee on the steering wheel. (Side note: I only drive with me knee on straight roads. I promise not to do that around curves.) Anyway, I was cruising around in my Aveo, radio up, and making sure that I let everyone in LP know that the boy should never feel he is irreplaceable.
The point? I had a blast. I was silly, but I didn't care. I am sure every person watching me doing my award winning choreography thought I had lost it, but happiness was oozing out of me. I want every single person to be insanely happy. We are the only ones who control how we feel. We may not believe this, but it is true. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you deal with it. Let your hair down and have some fun. I know we have to be adults, take care of many other people, pay bills, and all of the other fun adult activities we are bound to, but never let that child in you die.
If singing and dancing in the car is out of the question, do anything you're comfortable with. Try skipping. I skip almost daily at school with my friend Mrs. Rogers. (See if you all can figure out who Mrs. Rogers is.) I promise that it is impossible to skip and frown. I just want you all to smile, laugh, and be as happy as you all deserve. Life is so much better when you choose to make it fun. My high school students taught me YOLO this year, and as cheesy and cliche as it is, it is true. You only live once. Don't look back and wish you would have loosened up and had more fun. Start now. If you need to hang out with Baby Teacher and Mrs. Rogers to see how it is done, we will welcome you with open arms.
Life is all what you make of it. Soak up every minute. Have fun. Choose to be happy. I promise if you put on a little Beyonce and crank up the radio that you'll be well on your way. Just watch out for the silver Aveo. I'll be doing my best to show you up!
Go do good things,
BT
I am here today to tell you this one thing: sing in the car. You may be saying, "What, BT? Where is this coming from? You've been all serious and inspirational. Now, you're telling me to sing in my car?" I sure am.
This blog transpired today from my own personal rendition of Beyonce's "Irreplaceable." I have a full out chair dance to this song. I am able to do it with one hand on the wheel or with my knee on the steering wheel. (Side note: I only drive with me knee on straight roads. I promise not to do that around curves.) Anyway, I was cruising around in my Aveo, radio up, and making sure that I let everyone in LP know that the boy should never feel he is irreplaceable.
The point? I had a blast. I was silly, but I didn't care. I am sure every person watching me doing my award winning choreography thought I had lost it, but happiness was oozing out of me. I want every single person to be insanely happy. We are the only ones who control how we feel. We may not believe this, but it is true. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you deal with it. Let your hair down and have some fun. I know we have to be adults, take care of many other people, pay bills, and all of the other fun adult activities we are bound to, but never let that child in you die.
If singing and dancing in the car is out of the question, do anything you're comfortable with. Try skipping. I skip almost daily at school with my friend Mrs. Rogers. (See if you all can figure out who Mrs. Rogers is.) I promise that it is impossible to skip and frown. I just want you all to smile, laugh, and be as happy as you all deserve. Life is so much better when you choose to make it fun. My high school students taught me YOLO this year, and as cheesy and cliche as it is, it is true. You only live once. Don't look back and wish you would have loosened up and had more fun. Start now. If you need to hang out with Baby Teacher and Mrs. Rogers to see how it is done, we will welcome you with open arms.
Life is all what you make of it. Soak up every minute. Have fun. Choose to be happy. I promise if you put on a little Beyonce and crank up the radio that you'll be well on your way. Just watch out for the silver Aveo. I'll be doing my best to show you up!
Go do good things,
BT
Wednesday, June 20, 2012
Let It Go
Hi, everyone! Happy hot and humid Wednesday!
I thought I would touch on something that completely pushed me out of a negative time in my life. It is something that we all have dealt with at some point in our lives--forgiveness.
It is an unfortunate given in our lives: We will at some point be hurt, misled, lied to, etc. by someone. Unless we seclude ourselves on our own private island, we will face a compromising situation. These issues are never pleasant to deal with, but what often hurts people more than the actual situation itself is that they never let it go. People hold on to the hurt and anger for years. We must forgive.
Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different. There is no possible way that any one of us can rewind back to the moment we were hurt and change what happened. Believe me, if that were possible, I would have done it. If we don't forgive, we are stuck in the past. We don't allow ourselves to continue on and be happy. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. You give yourself back the power over you. When we hold on to grudges or the hurt of something that occurred, we surrender the power over to the one(s) who hurt us. Take the power back. Forgive and begin taking steps forward in your life.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you are ok with what happened; it doesn't make it right. You don't have to run into the arms of the person who hurt you, but you can allow yourself to see them in a more positive light. Just let it go. Throw away the weight off your back. You can't change what happened. The only you can control is how you handle it. Do not hold onto something that will bring continual sadness into your life. Get out of the dark spot. Forgiveness allows you to take that first step back into the light.
I thought I would touch on something that completely pushed me out of a negative time in my life. It is something that we all have dealt with at some point in our lives--forgiveness.
It is an unfortunate given in our lives: We will at some point be hurt, misled, lied to, etc. by someone. Unless we seclude ourselves on our own private island, we will face a compromising situation. These issues are never pleasant to deal with, but what often hurts people more than the actual situation itself is that they never let it go. People hold on to the hurt and anger for years. We must forgive.
Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different. There is no possible way that any one of us can rewind back to the moment we were hurt and change what happened. Believe me, if that were possible, I would have done it. If we don't forgive, we are stuck in the past. We don't allow ourselves to continue on and be happy. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. You give yourself back the power over you. When we hold on to grudges or the hurt of something that occurred, we surrender the power over to the one(s) who hurt us. Take the power back. Forgive and begin taking steps forward in your life.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you are ok with what happened; it doesn't make it right. You don't have to run into the arms of the person who hurt you, but you can allow yourself to see them in a more positive light. Just let it go. Throw away the weight off your back. You can't change what happened. The only you can control is how you handle it. Do not hold onto something that will bring continual sadness into your life. Get out of the dark spot. Forgiveness allows you to take that first step back into the light.
Monday, June 18, 2012
Does Your Face Light Up?
Good evening, all!
I was so excited when I remembered this clip I once saw on Oprah because I knew that it would be absolutely perfect.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Jw0Fu8nhOc - Clip if you are interested!
Oprah always refers to the "Aha Moment." It is the moment when you come to a realization that can change who you are. Author Toni Morrison was on the show discussing a book, but she said something that gave me my "Aha Moment." Morrison asked, "When a child walks into a room, does your face light up?" I thought about this a great deal that day. It doesn't have to just be a child; it can be anyone. It goes back to the fact that everyone wants to feel appreciated and validated.
"Does your face light up?" What emotion are you giving off when you first see a friend, family member, co-worker, spouse, student? People can sense how you feel about them. Make them feel what you feel. I say this because we all know what it is like to be on the other side. We know how it is to be acknowledged with excitement and joy, and we know what it is like to meet the critical eyes of someone that we care about. No one likes to be picked apart as soon as they enter the room. It is always nice to feel that you are wanted. I think this advice can do wonders for so many. I don't advise jumping up and down or lighting off fireworks each time you see someone you love; however, I promise that if you make a sincere attempt to "light up" you will see a difference.
I have a friend whom I work with whom people are drawn to because of this very reason; she makes it seem as though she is truly happy to see you. Sometimes it's with an enthusiastic hello or a big smile, but she makes it known that she is glad I am there. It is the same with the kids. She is adored by 99.99% of the school population. (I have to leave the .01% of people who can't get along with anyone.) She validates everyone. She probably has no idea what she is doing, but it makes all the difference in the world. She lights up.
That is my advice. Become conscious of the vibe you give off. Show genuine happiness when a loved one enters a room. We have plenty of time to be critical and dole out advice later. First, let them know they are loved with a smile, cheerful hello, or even an acknowledgement. A little bit of caring can go a long way.
Go do good things,
BT
I was so excited when I remembered this clip I once saw on Oprah because I knew that it would be absolutely perfect.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Jw0Fu8nhOc - Clip if you are interested!
Oprah always refers to the "Aha Moment." It is the moment when you come to a realization that can change who you are. Author Toni Morrison was on the show discussing a book, but she said something that gave me my "Aha Moment." Morrison asked, "When a child walks into a room, does your face light up?" I thought about this a great deal that day. It doesn't have to just be a child; it can be anyone. It goes back to the fact that everyone wants to feel appreciated and validated.
"Does your face light up?" What emotion are you giving off when you first see a friend, family member, co-worker, spouse, student? People can sense how you feel about them. Make them feel what you feel. I say this because we all know what it is like to be on the other side. We know how it is to be acknowledged with excitement and joy, and we know what it is like to meet the critical eyes of someone that we care about. No one likes to be picked apart as soon as they enter the room. It is always nice to feel that you are wanted. I think this advice can do wonders for so many. I don't advise jumping up and down or lighting off fireworks each time you see someone you love; however, I promise that if you make a sincere attempt to "light up" you will see a difference.
I have a friend whom I work with whom people are drawn to because of this very reason; she makes it seem as though she is truly happy to see you. Sometimes it's with an enthusiastic hello or a big smile, but she makes it known that she is glad I am there. It is the same with the kids. She is adored by 99.99% of the school population. (I have to leave the .01% of people who can't get along with anyone.) She validates everyone. She probably has no idea what she is doing, but it makes all the difference in the world. She lights up.
That is my advice. Become conscious of the vibe you give off. Show genuine happiness when a loved one enters a room. We have plenty of time to be critical and dole out advice later. First, let them know they are loved with a smile, cheerful hello, or even an acknowledgement. A little bit of caring can go a long way.
Go do good things,
BT
Sunday, June 17, 2012
Say What?
Hi, everyone! I know it has been a while since my last post, but I have been quite busy. I hope this post finds you all doing well and having enjoyed Father's Day.
Thought for today? The importance of listening.
I once was told that the most important part of communicating is listening. This stuck with me as one truth that I needed to remember. How many times have you felt that your friend, spouse, co-worker, or family member heard you but did not listen to you?
I implore you to listen; listen to what the person you are speaking with is saying. Look at them, keep your lips sealed, and really listen. We are so quick to chime in with our own stories that fit the situation or quick comments we want to share, but what often is compromised is the internalization of what was said. When we are busy thinking of what we want to respond with, we are closing our minds to what the other person wants us to understand. We hear, but we do not listen.
When we listen, we validate the other person. We tell them, "Yes, I understand what you are saying, and it is important to me." Isn't that what we want? We want others to understand what we feel. This can't be accomplished without listening. It takes a dose of selflessness. It takes one person focusing on another person and, for a moment, completely forgetting about him/herself and directing all attention to the friend or family member. I know it may seem like you are not doing a whole lot to alleviate the problem, but allowing a person to share their feelings and having those feelings validated is incredibly beneficial and freeing.
Everyone loves a listener. This is a fact. Find people in your life that will genuinely listen to what you have to say; however, it is a two way street. You should always repay the favor. Zip the lip, and open your ears!
Thought for today? The importance of listening.
I once was told that the most important part of communicating is listening. This stuck with me as one truth that I needed to remember. How many times have you felt that your friend, spouse, co-worker, or family member heard you but did not listen to you?
I implore you to listen; listen to what the person you are speaking with is saying. Look at them, keep your lips sealed, and really listen. We are so quick to chime in with our own stories that fit the situation or quick comments we want to share, but what often is compromised is the internalization of what was said. When we are busy thinking of what we want to respond with, we are closing our minds to what the other person wants us to understand. We hear, but we do not listen.
When we listen, we validate the other person. We tell them, "Yes, I understand what you are saying, and it is important to me." Isn't that what we want? We want others to understand what we feel. This can't be accomplished without listening. It takes a dose of selflessness. It takes one person focusing on another person and, for a moment, completely forgetting about him/herself and directing all attention to the friend or family member. I know it may seem like you are not doing a whole lot to alleviate the problem, but allowing a person to share their feelings and having those feelings validated is incredibly beneficial and freeing.
Everyone loves a listener. This is a fact. Find people in your life that will genuinely listen to what you have to say; however, it is a two way street. You should always repay the favor. Zip the lip, and open your ears!
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
Get Better Not Bitter
Hi,
I'm back! This blog has reignited a passion for writing that I forgot I had. I had always been told what to write in school, so this is making me quite happy. I get to choose what I write now! All the support is much appreciated.
Thought of the day? Don't feel sorry for yourself...for too long. :)
Each day that I wake up, I walk upstairs to find one of the most beautiful women that I know. She is a measly 105 lbs and wears a hat to cover a head that was made baby smooth by cancer. She has tubes hanging off from her chest and stomach and has turned our home into a makeshift pharmacy, but I find her to be breathtakingly gorgeous.
My step-mother was diagnosed with leukemia late last year, and it spread through her quickly. What we once thought was a manageable disease became a frightening beast that took over her body. She has been down a long road, but she is at home trying to recover after a bone marrow transplant. My step-mother has every single reason in the world to feel sorry for herself. She could easily lie on the couch each day and complain about the fight she faces--the fight for her life. What do I get when I walk upstairs? I get a smile. I get laughter. I get this tiny lady trying to do dance moves with me in the kitchen. I get a lady who is pumped to watch Dance Moms with me after taking another painful injection. I get a lady who asks me how my day was and what I did. I get corny jokes. I get happiness. I take away inspiration and an appreciation for everything and everyone that I love.
Don't feel sorry for yourself. Stand up, put your shoulders back, and move forward. Life will not always hand you what you want, but you can make it into what you need. Don't worry about things or people who don't deserve it. Don't stress about things you can't control. If you mess up, let it be. You can't change the past. You can control how you deal with it. Appreciate. Appreciate. Appreciate. Value the little things. Just enjoy what you've been given. If my step-mom, a person who had her life flipped upside down and almost ripped away from her, can do it, I know you can, too. Life is all what you make it. I see that now.
Just be happy.
Go do good things,
BT
I'm back! This blog has reignited a passion for writing that I forgot I had. I had always been told what to write in school, so this is making me quite happy. I get to choose what I write now! All the support is much appreciated.
Thought of the day? Don't feel sorry for yourself...for too long. :)
Each day that I wake up, I walk upstairs to find one of the most beautiful women that I know. She is a measly 105 lbs and wears a hat to cover a head that was made baby smooth by cancer. She has tubes hanging off from her chest and stomach and has turned our home into a makeshift pharmacy, but I find her to be breathtakingly gorgeous.
My step-mother was diagnosed with leukemia late last year, and it spread through her quickly. What we once thought was a manageable disease became a frightening beast that took over her body. She has been down a long road, but she is at home trying to recover after a bone marrow transplant. My step-mother has every single reason in the world to feel sorry for herself. She could easily lie on the couch each day and complain about the fight she faces--the fight for her life. What do I get when I walk upstairs? I get a smile. I get laughter. I get this tiny lady trying to do dance moves with me in the kitchen. I get a lady who is pumped to watch Dance Moms with me after taking another painful injection. I get a lady who asks me how my day was and what I did. I get corny jokes. I get happiness. I take away inspiration and an appreciation for everything and everyone that I love.
Don't feel sorry for yourself. Stand up, put your shoulders back, and move forward. Life will not always hand you what you want, but you can make it into what you need. Don't worry about things or people who don't deserve it. Don't stress about things you can't control. If you mess up, let it be. You can't change the past. You can control how you deal with it. Appreciate. Appreciate. Appreciate. Value the little things. Just enjoy what you've been given. If my step-mom, a person who had her life flipped upside down and almost ripped away from her, can do it, I know you can, too. Life is all what you make it. I see that now.
Just be happy.
Go do good things,
BT
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
You've Got a Friend in Me
Hi,
I am hoping that you all are having a great week. I have had a perfect few days, and I am wishing that the whole summer pans out like this. I am just happy.
I met with two old friends today, and it was refreshing. It was nice to see people whom I haven't seen in years. While driving home and wondering what I would write about, I was reminded of a poem that I read once about friendships. (I have pasted the poem to the bottom of the blog if you're inclined to read.) I felt compelled to make this the topic of my blog. The idea of the poem was that each friend in our life serves a purpose; they are for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Think about it. It fits. I have had my fair share of friendship ups and downs; yet, as I have grown up, I now have the sense to look back and understand why some people came and went and why some are still here.
Reason: I think this is the hardest one to figure out. These are the friends that came in like a lamb but out like a lion. There is generally hurt attached with this person, but if you can wipe away all of the pain and frustration, you are left with a lesson. The important thing is to figure out the reason that particular person came into your life. Did she teach you to let loose? Was she there to help you through a time of difficulty? Because of her, did you learn the importance of standing up for yourself? Whatever the reason, this type of friend is important.
Season: I consider this type of friend to be the ones you meet in college and lose touch with or friends you may meet in different jobs. Whatever the case, they are there for a season. These friendships fade after time, but they are meaningful. I loved my college friends. I rarely if ever speak to them because of the hustle and bustle of life, but the memories made with them are ones that I won't forget. They pulled me through college. When I was stressed or just exhausted, they were there ready to cheer me up.
Lifetime: Oh, the trusty lifetime friends. Truth be told, I just found my lifetime friends not all that long ago, but if there is one thing I am sure about, it is them. We all have those friends. Life would not be nearly as wonderful without our lifetime friends. It took me 25 years, but I now have a core group surrounding me whom I trust completely. They support me. They laugh with me. They cheer for me. They stick up for me. They are a true friend in every sense of the word. Hold on to these types of friends. Never take them for granted. Make sure you are giving as much as you are receiving because these people are irreplaceable. Thank you to my lifetime friends. You each know who you are. :)
There you have it. Look at the people in your life. Are they for a reason, season, or a lifetime? Be sure to figure out what lessons you were supposed to learn if you had some reasons. If the Big Guy is trying to teaching you something, it is probably important.
Go do good things,
BT
A Reason A Season A Lifetime
Reason Season Lifetime
People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
Or to provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
Or to provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON,
It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall,
The season eventually ends.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall,
The season eventually ends.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
Those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person anyway;
And put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.
Those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person anyway;
And put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being part of my life,
Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Thank you for being part of my life,
Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Monday, June 11, 2012
Thank you. Merci. Gracias.
Hi,
Happy Monday! Normally Mondays are a source of irritation for me, but now that summer is here, I love Mondays! I woke up at 9 today. Hello, Heaven.
Going along with my "scatter joy" theme, I thought I would introduce all of you to something fun and gratifying that you could EASILY do to scatter a little joy around the world. Oprah introduced a little project called the "Thank You Game." What happens is that she gives you a topic for the day, and you are to thank someone, anyone, who fits the description. Her goal is to get one billion thank yous around the world. They post new challenges daily, so you will never run out of ideas. It feels great to thank someone, but the best is the reaction you get from the person who is genuinely appreciative of you acknowledging what they did. It's a win/win situation.
https://www.facebook.com/ownTV/app_219838831450129
Go to the link, and check it out!
You don't have to send out a ticker tape parade to the person's door step. Send a text, card, email, or make a phone call. Saying "thank you" is one of the greatest things any of us can say. Imagine how much nicer our community, country, even world would be if we all took the time to realize how much other people do for us on a daily basis. If I accomplish anything with this blog, I want other people to realize how important it is to care for and be kind to others. Sure, we all could make it on our own, but what fun would that be?
Be someone who adds to the world, not takes away from it. Add a little joy not only to your life but to others. It's really quite fun. :)
Go do go things!
BT
"At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel." - Maya Angelou
Happy Monday! Normally Mondays are a source of irritation for me, but now that summer is here, I love Mondays! I woke up at 9 today. Hello, Heaven.
Going along with my "scatter joy" theme, I thought I would introduce all of you to something fun and gratifying that you could EASILY do to scatter a little joy around the world. Oprah introduced a little project called the "Thank You Game." What happens is that she gives you a topic for the day, and you are to thank someone, anyone, who fits the description. Her goal is to get one billion thank yous around the world. They post new challenges daily, so you will never run out of ideas. It feels great to thank someone, but the best is the reaction you get from the person who is genuinely appreciative of you acknowledging what they did. It's a win/win situation.
https://www.facebook.com/ownTV/app_219838831450129
Go to the link, and check it out!
You don't have to send out a ticker tape parade to the person's door step. Send a text, card, email, or make a phone call. Saying "thank you" is one of the greatest things any of us can say. Imagine how much nicer our community, country, even world would be if we all took the time to realize how much other people do for us on a daily basis. If I accomplish anything with this blog, I want other people to realize how important it is to care for and be kind to others. Sure, we all could make it on our own, but what fun would that be?
Be someone who adds to the world, not takes away from it. Add a little joy not only to your life but to others. It's really quite fun. :)
Go do go things!
BT
"At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel." - Maya Angelou
Sunday, June 10, 2012
Pay the Price
Hi,
Hope everyone's weekend has been great! I have been racking my brain for a topic for today. It just came to me, so I quickly fired up my computer and am going to try to adequately convey my feelings on the idea of to get what you want, you have to pay the price.
For many, life would be wonderful if everything we wanted was placed before us as soon as we wanted it; however, I think there is something to be said for the journey that we take to achieve what we want most. We learn so much about ourselves during the time we spend pushing ourselves and finding out what our limits are. Often times, what we are capable of is much more than we had originally thought.
I will have to use my sports analogies for this blog, as it makes it much easier for me to explain, but this can translate to any facet of life. Every team in Indiana says on the first day of the season, or at least they should, "We want to go to the state championship." There is nothing wrong with wanting the ultimate prize in high school sports. Many want it; only two get it. What's the difference? Two teams paid the price. I once heard a quote that said, "To get to a place you've never been, you have to do things you have never done." We must work hard in order to achieve success. There is no substitute for hard work.
If I were a player and wanted to get to the state championship, I have to realize that when I am on the court playing or practicing, I cannot let up. I have to push myself every second. I have to give even when I think I have nothing left to give. People often find ways to cut corners in life, never knowing their full potential. However, when people push themselves as hard as they can be it in sports, work, school, etc, the bar they can reach is much higher than originally perceived.
So many of us do not reach our "state championship" because we pause to feel sorry for ourselves or to complain about how hard we are working. The moment we stop to complain or take a break, someone has passed us. There are people out there who want something so badly that they are willing to pay the price, and if you aren't willing to pay the same price, you have to expect to be passed. You must go and seize what you want, even if it is difficult to obtain. Sure times are going to be hard, and you'll be exhausted, but always keep in mind the incredible feeling you will have when what you have dreamed of is finally in your grasp.
My advice is to pay the price. Go out and do things you never have done to get what you've never had. Life is so short and filled with too many "what ifs" or "I should haves." When you're saying that, it is too late. Push yourself; believe in yourself. One of my goals is to coach in a state championship game. I don't care how long it takes me, I will pay the price to reach that goal.
Go do good things,
BT
Hope everyone's weekend has been great! I have been racking my brain for a topic for today. It just came to me, so I quickly fired up my computer and am going to try to adequately convey my feelings on the idea of to get what you want, you have to pay the price.
For many, life would be wonderful if everything we wanted was placed before us as soon as we wanted it; however, I think there is something to be said for the journey that we take to achieve what we want most. We learn so much about ourselves during the time we spend pushing ourselves and finding out what our limits are. Often times, what we are capable of is much more than we had originally thought.
I will have to use my sports analogies for this blog, as it makes it much easier for me to explain, but this can translate to any facet of life. Every team in Indiana says on the first day of the season, or at least they should, "We want to go to the state championship." There is nothing wrong with wanting the ultimate prize in high school sports. Many want it; only two get it. What's the difference? Two teams paid the price. I once heard a quote that said, "To get to a place you've never been, you have to do things you have never done." We must work hard in order to achieve success. There is no substitute for hard work.
If I were a player and wanted to get to the state championship, I have to realize that when I am on the court playing or practicing, I cannot let up. I have to push myself every second. I have to give even when I think I have nothing left to give. People often find ways to cut corners in life, never knowing their full potential. However, when people push themselves as hard as they can be it in sports, work, school, etc, the bar they can reach is much higher than originally perceived.
So many of us do not reach our "state championship" because we pause to feel sorry for ourselves or to complain about how hard we are working. The moment we stop to complain or take a break, someone has passed us. There are people out there who want something so badly that they are willing to pay the price, and if you aren't willing to pay the same price, you have to expect to be passed. You must go and seize what you want, even if it is difficult to obtain. Sure times are going to be hard, and you'll be exhausted, but always keep in mind the incredible feeling you will have when what you have dreamed of is finally in your grasp.
My advice is to pay the price. Go out and do things you never have done to get what you've never had. Life is so short and filled with too many "what ifs" or "I should haves." When you're saying that, it is too late. Push yourself; believe in yourself. One of my goals is to coach in a state championship game. I don't care how long it takes me, I will pay the price to reach that goal.
Go do good things,
BT
Saturday, June 9, 2012
Choose Wisely!
Hi,
I find this blog quite cathartic, so I want to tell you select few who read this that I appreciate all of your kind words about what I have to say. There is nothing better than a pat on the back for something that I worked hard on. Thanks!
I feel slightly strange giving all this advice on things that I feel are important. People probably scoff at the 25-year-old telling others about life; however, I feel confident in saying that I am a 75-year-old trapped in a 25-year-old's body. I am sure of it. Therefore, my thoughts have some validity.
What's my advice? Choose wisely. I don't necessarily mean paper or plastic, scrambled or over easy, or the blue top or pink top. I think one of the most important decisions people can make is whom they choose to be in their life. Duh, right? Well, it is much easier said than done. It's far too easy to let people stay in our lives who drain us of happiness, trust, and faith.
I had a friendship like this for far too long, and I was miserable. I was giving constantly, which was fine for the first nine years, but by the tenth, I had nothing left to give. Once I got my teaching job, I became very close with a group of ladies who treated me like I deserved. It was hard for me to take instead of continually give; I didn't think I deserved it because I was not used to it. I finally had people who appreciated me not for what I could do for them but just for being me. They supported me and helped piece me back together. My smile is back, and I have my pep back. These friends made me realize the importance of choosing wisely.
There in lies my advice. You can't choose family, but you can choose your friends. Find people who appreciate you for who you are, faults and all. Find people who make you laugh and who you can be yourself around. Find people who will drop whatever is going on when you're in desperate need of them. Find someone who is willing to give just as much as you are. Find people who celebrate your successes and are not jealous of them. With this, have the courage to let go of those people who drain you. Life is too short to waste time waiting for people to change. Maya Angelou once said, "The first time people show you who you are, believe them." Trust me, it is so true. You are special and deserve only the best people in your life.
I am who I am because of those who are around me. Thank you for being a part of that.
Go do good things,
BT
I find this blog quite cathartic, so I want to tell you select few who read this that I appreciate all of your kind words about what I have to say. There is nothing better than a pat on the back for something that I worked hard on. Thanks!
I feel slightly strange giving all this advice on things that I feel are important. People probably scoff at the 25-year-old telling others about life; however, I feel confident in saying that I am a 75-year-old trapped in a 25-year-old's body. I am sure of it. Therefore, my thoughts have some validity.
What's my advice? Choose wisely. I don't necessarily mean paper or plastic, scrambled or over easy, or the blue top or pink top. I think one of the most important decisions people can make is whom they choose to be in their life. Duh, right? Well, it is much easier said than done. It's far too easy to let people stay in our lives who drain us of happiness, trust, and faith.
I had a friendship like this for far too long, and I was miserable. I was giving constantly, which was fine for the first nine years, but by the tenth, I had nothing left to give. Once I got my teaching job, I became very close with a group of ladies who treated me like I deserved. It was hard for me to take instead of continually give; I didn't think I deserved it because I was not used to it. I finally had people who appreciated me not for what I could do for them but just for being me. They supported me and helped piece me back together. My smile is back, and I have my pep back. These friends made me realize the importance of choosing wisely.
There in lies my advice. You can't choose family, but you can choose your friends. Find people who appreciate you for who you are, faults and all. Find people who make you laugh and who you can be yourself around. Find people who will drop whatever is going on when you're in desperate need of them. Find someone who is willing to give just as much as you are. Find people who celebrate your successes and are not jealous of them. With this, have the courage to let go of those people who drain you. Life is too short to waste time waiting for people to change. Maya Angelou once said, "The first time people show you who you are, believe them." Trust me, it is so true. You are special and deserve only the best people in your life.
I am who I am because of those who are around me. Thank you for being a part of that.
Go do good things,
BT
Tuesday, June 5, 2012
I think I can; I think I can
Hi,
I have to give credit for this particular blog to two people. #1- My buddy G. Coop gets the first recognition because he bought me a book by John Wooden that has made me feel like I could climb Mount Everest and motivate a country to follow me. #2- I have to give credit to John Wooden. I knew he was an incredible coach and person, but holy cow. This man is second to none. I read a passage in the book, which is now highlighted, that says, "A favorite observation of my dad's was the following: 'Never believe you're better than anybody else, but remember that you're just as good as everybody else.' That's important: No better, but just as good!"
Confidence in myself has always been a weakness of mine. I mainly chalk it up to my insane perfectionism, but it definitely is something that I need to work on. Every time I do something, I incessantly cut myself down for it or psych myself out prior to even starting by telling myself that I am not good enough to do it. I have so many wonderful people in my corner who send me praise, but I never believe it. Then, I read Mr. Wooden's words. "No better, but just as good." Apparently, when he says it, it sticks more. I was riding the stationary bike when I read this. I turned into Lance Armstrong for a moment and threw my hands in the air like I had just won my 8th Tour de France. I can do it. I do deserve it. I am just as good as anyone else. That's what I told myself.
I see this so much in my classroom. It is most evident in the young girls whom I work with each day. I am not sure who is telling them they can't, but my goal is to break that chain. I will now have a poster up in my room with the important words I just read. People don't have to walk around thinking they are better than others, but no one should walk around with her head hanging low because she doesn't believe she can do whatever it is that she is being asked to do or wants to do. Girls need to believe in themselves. I need to take a little of my own medicine.
I have been given a special job, one that I could easily sit and tell myself that I can't do or don't deserve because I am not as good as other people. In fact, I had been doing that very thing for quite some time. However, if I stop being negative and realize that I do deserve what I have been given, I feel excited about what lies ahead. From now on, my shoulders are back, and my head is held high. I may be no better, but I am just as good. So are all of you. :)
Go do good things,
BT
I have to give credit for this particular blog to two people. #1- My buddy G. Coop gets the first recognition because he bought me a book by John Wooden that has made me feel like I could climb Mount Everest and motivate a country to follow me. #2- I have to give credit to John Wooden. I knew he was an incredible coach and person, but holy cow. This man is second to none. I read a passage in the book, which is now highlighted, that says, "A favorite observation of my dad's was the following: 'Never believe you're better than anybody else, but remember that you're just as good as everybody else.' That's important: No better, but just as good!"
Confidence in myself has always been a weakness of mine. I mainly chalk it up to my insane perfectionism, but it definitely is something that I need to work on. Every time I do something, I incessantly cut myself down for it or psych myself out prior to even starting by telling myself that I am not good enough to do it. I have so many wonderful people in my corner who send me praise, but I never believe it. Then, I read Mr. Wooden's words. "No better, but just as good." Apparently, when he says it, it sticks more. I was riding the stationary bike when I read this. I turned into Lance Armstrong for a moment and threw my hands in the air like I had just won my 8th Tour de France. I can do it. I do deserve it. I am just as good as anyone else. That's what I told myself.
I see this so much in my classroom. It is most evident in the young girls whom I work with each day. I am not sure who is telling them they can't, but my goal is to break that chain. I will now have a poster up in my room with the important words I just read. People don't have to walk around thinking they are better than others, but no one should walk around with her head hanging low because she doesn't believe she can do whatever it is that she is being asked to do or wants to do. Girls need to believe in themselves. I need to take a little of my own medicine.
I have been given a special job, one that I could easily sit and tell myself that I can't do or don't deserve because I am not as good as other people. In fact, I had been doing that very thing for quite some time. However, if I stop being negative and realize that I do deserve what I have been given, I feel excited about what lies ahead. From now on, my shoulders are back, and my head is held high. I may be no better, but I am just as good. So are all of you. :)
Go do good things,
BT
Monday, June 4, 2012
YouTube Lover
Hi,
I was told to make a summer bucket list for my next blog. I find these extremely difficult to make. I tried in vain, but I found my list to be boring, and boring is something I strive to never be. After I hit my final backspace, I knew what I was going to write about: YouTube.
To say that I love YouTube would be the understatement of the century. While some activities that I partake in drag on endlessly, I sometimes can spend hours watching videos. For example, last night (don't judge me, please) I spent an hour and a half watching videos of soldiers returning home and surprising their children at school. I can sense some judgement going on here, but that's alright. I sat in my bed sobbing. No joke. It was the ugly cry. You know, the one where mascara is running down your face, snot is building up, and you do that wheezing thing that sounds like you're gasping for air. Some videos were so touching that I had little whines escape. After I finished watching these incredible men sneak to schools and see the children catapult into their father's arms, I felt happy. I was reminded that people are good.
I am incredibly thankful for YouTube. Where else can I find a boy who is "happy of myself" for learning to ride a bike (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eaIvk1cSyG8 --this is a must watch), a man get all of his closest family and friends to make a special proposal (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7yNdpaSBTzo), two little girls from England who brighten my whole day (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUWpd91UBrA&feature=fvst), see an Olympian tear a hamstring and finish the race with the help of his dad (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HFKpZnok10s), a student of mine persuading peers to have self confidence (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ppT3n4DuwUo&feature=g-user-u), or a little boy see his father who has been overseas (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ygt9Wizh9mo&feature=related)? I am sucker for sentimental stories. I love seeing people triumph, laugh, or do amazing things. To me the glass is always half full, and YouTube proves that time and time again. Yes, I know there is a lot of trash on there, but for every stupid video, there are countless ones that never fail to make me smile. Yay for optimism!
I love to be happy. I love to smile. Thank you, YouTube, for always being a great source of this. And, thank you, all of you, for reading this.
Go do great things,
BT
Ps- I highly recommend watching all of the videos listed. :)
I was told to make a summer bucket list for my next blog. I find these extremely difficult to make. I tried in vain, but I found my list to be boring, and boring is something I strive to never be. After I hit my final backspace, I knew what I was going to write about: YouTube.
To say that I love YouTube would be the understatement of the century. While some activities that I partake in drag on endlessly, I sometimes can spend hours watching videos. For example, last night (don't judge me, please) I spent an hour and a half watching videos of soldiers returning home and surprising their children at school. I can sense some judgement going on here, but that's alright. I sat in my bed sobbing. No joke. It was the ugly cry. You know, the one where mascara is running down your face, snot is building up, and you do that wheezing thing that sounds like you're gasping for air. Some videos were so touching that I had little whines escape. After I finished watching these incredible men sneak to schools and see the children catapult into their father's arms, I felt happy. I was reminded that people are good.
I am incredibly thankful for YouTube. Where else can I find a boy who is "happy of myself" for learning to ride a bike (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eaIvk1cSyG8 --this is a must watch), a man get all of his closest family and friends to make a special proposal (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7yNdpaSBTzo), two little girls from England who brighten my whole day (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUWpd91UBrA&feature=fvst), see an Olympian tear a hamstring and finish the race with the help of his dad (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HFKpZnok10s), a student of mine persuading peers to have self confidence (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ppT3n4DuwUo&feature=g-user-u), or a little boy see his father who has been overseas (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ygt9Wizh9mo&feature=related)? I am sucker for sentimental stories. I love seeing people triumph, laugh, or do amazing things. To me the glass is always half full, and YouTube proves that time and time again. Yes, I know there is a lot of trash on there, but for every stupid video, there are countless ones that never fail to make me smile. Yay for optimism!
I love to be happy. I love to smile. Thank you, YouTube, for always being a great source of this. And, thank you, all of you, for reading this.
Go do great things,
BT
Ps- I highly recommend watching all of the videos listed. :)
Saturday, June 2, 2012
Blog Inauguration
I love words. I find more joy in the written word than the spoken; I feel it sheds a light and peels away layers that people may not see. I never do things for me, so this is my sorry attempt to treat myself. I will start a blog with no specific rhyme or reason behind it. Some posts may be inspirational, some may be thought provoking, some may be silly, and some may be the most random grouping of words any of you have read. Whatever the aim may be for that particular blog, this will be for me. That is a big step, as many of you know.
That leaves the burning question of what shall my very first blog be about. Well, let me tell you...
I will tell you why I think the title of my blog should be the mantra everyone lives by. I spent hours (if you do not count the many visits downstairs to my most favorite person) up in my classroom today trying to organize, clean, and work on finishing up the yearbook for this school year. As I was getting ready to call it a day, I picked up a letter from a student that was given to me on the last day of school. It was such a sweet, touching letter. It was so nice to hear that I was appreciated. I proceeded to head over to the place I put all of my little notes or cards from students. I decided it was a great time to pull all of them out and read each one again. While this reaffirmed my love of teaching, the letters, drawings, cards, and various other trinkets reminded me of the importance of "spreading joy."
In a world that is increasingly becoming more and more self absorbed, a kind word or gesture to another person is cherished. My family has teased me since my first day of kindergarten that I am a suck up. This label has stuck with me throughout my life, but what I find frustrating is that people think saying a kind word to another person is sucking up. Why can't I tell a person they look nice if they do? Why can't I send a card to thank someone for doing something nice for me or just being a great person? Somewhere along the line people have become too jaded and selfish. We need to step outside ourselves and be kind. Instead of only telling people what you don't like about them, why not say something that you do? That's what I challenge everyone to do for one week. Each day, say something nice to someone. It could be a thank you, a simple compliment, or a written expression. Just scatter some joy. I plan to. :)
Shew. Blog #1 is done. I'll start thinking what to write about next.
That leaves the burning question of what shall my very first blog be about. Well, let me tell you...
I will tell you why I think the title of my blog should be the mantra everyone lives by. I spent hours (if you do not count the many visits downstairs to my most favorite person) up in my classroom today trying to organize, clean, and work on finishing up the yearbook for this school year. As I was getting ready to call it a day, I picked up a letter from a student that was given to me on the last day of school. It was such a sweet, touching letter. It was so nice to hear that I was appreciated. I proceeded to head over to the place I put all of my little notes or cards from students. I decided it was a great time to pull all of them out and read each one again. While this reaffirmed my love of teaching, the letters, drawings, cards, and various other trinkets reminded me of the importance of "spreading joy."
In a world that is increasingly becoming more and more self absorbed, a kind word or gesture to another person is cherished. My family has teased me since my first day of kindergarten that I am a suck up. This label has stuck with me throughout my life, but what I find frustrating is that people think saying a kind word to another person is sucking up. Why can't I tell a person they look nice if they do? Why can't I send a card to thank someone for doing something nice for me or just being a great person? Somewhere along the line people have become too jaded and selfish. We need to step outside ourselves and be kind. Instead of only telling people what you don't like about them, why not say something that you do? That's what I challenge everyone to do for one week. Each day, say something nice to someone. It could be a thank you, a simple compliment, or a written expression. Just scatter some joy. I plan to. :)
Shew. Blog #1 is done. I'll start thinking what to write about next.
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